Teacher Li Xiaolai said seven years is a lifetime, I don’t know why he said so, maybe seven years is enough to change a person’s life.
Seven years ago, I had not graduated from college. I was sitting in a small shop near the school gate, eating boiled fish and drinking beer while my classmates blew cowhide to each other. Remember to set a big goal and a few smaller goals when you first graduate — give yourself five years to figure out if you can make it in this industry. Five years passed quickly, and the answer was also yes. Basically, the goal was to get married at the age of 24, buy a house at the age of 25, have a baby at the age of 27, etc. In fact, the only purpose was to free up more energy to do more meaningful things at the age of 30.
Maybe there are some people who are different from me. They think it’s better to become famous as early as possible and get married and have children later. If you have a good background or are gifted or talented or can live by your looks, it’s never too late. I do not have the above conditions, you tell me to wait, wait for only disappointment and higher housing prices. I don’t think it’s worth wasting energy trying to get married and have kids after 30. Of course, if you have a reliable girl (boy) friend, this is your personal judgment, the judgment standard is to be responsible for what we do, this is very important, especially if you are a man.
Of course, in recent years, some problems have come to light and some detours have been taken. At the end of 2013, due to lack of direction, I picked up DOTA, which I had played in my freshman year, and I ended up playing NBA after work. This situation continued until the middle of 2014. I accidentally listened to a entrepreneurship class in a podcast, but I can’t remember who said it now.
At that time was ignited by this kind of emotion, rinse investment circle all day, today XX in harmony how much money tomorrow and a XX in harmony how much. Then look at their company background, boss background and project background and see if they can replicate that. The whole day just saw things, without thinking to others, to win the recognition of others.
Now I just want to say to myself at that time:
Hey, you’re such a big idiot. You think you saw it as your own
At that time, there was much talk but little action. Also did not pay attention to their own growth, as Xiao Lai teacher said:
Many people always say that they know so much, but they still can’t lead a good life. There’s a difference between knowing this right now and remembering it when you’re faced with a choice.
Now, the knowledge learning advocated by content sellers led by Luo Zhenyu has alarmed a large number of people, many like headless chickens paying around and getting nothing in the end. I’m one of them. There are a number of reasons for this:
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No quality resources are found, and there is too much spamming and poorly produced paid content online.
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There is no high quality recommendation platform, otherwise there are so many paid content, how to choose when entering the novice.
In fact, after seeing the amazing things and seeing the words that refresh or even overturn the three views, what we need to do is not to directly engrave these thoughts into our minds, but to comb through them with our own words, comb through the logic, record them with words, and polish them constantly, so that we can really use them when we choose.
Keep asking yourself what “cognitive habits” you need to pay attention to when reading. The first thing we need to do is not to accumulate much knowledge and broaden our horizons, but to overcome this inherent defect. Even if we can’t always overcome it, we should consciously offset its influence.
Another pitfall is aimless learning. Without a strategic goal, any tactical victory will be dissipated over time. Ayn Rand said:
When you say I love you, you must understand that you have me? Only those who have me have the right to say they love others.
This means that if love is driven only by instinct, you cannot be “I”, you are just anyone. If you say that you love knowledge and learning, but you are not clear about your long-term goal of learning, then you are not learning, you are performing the performance art of learning for yourself, for the circle of friends, is what we usually say “fake learning”, seeking to high.
After reflection, I found that what I did before was actually a “self-high” behavior, and I will adjust and consider “he high” in the future. Of course, this event requires a very strong ability, and I will spend the next seven years to polish it.
There has been a misunderstanding before, make a good product, write the code that moves oneself, is king. Actually according to individual actual situation, very difficult to oneself. Why not start from the user needs, dig around the resources, really solve part of the user needs. This is the main thing I will learn to do next.
Seven years from now, I’ll be 37, I’ll be 40, alive or living and what am I going to be? Better version or worse version? Are you still in Beijing?
I don’t know any of that. The only thing you can do is to write with your heart, do things with your heart, and do something useful to others, so as to realize your personal value. But one thing is for sure: go back to your family and spend more time with them. At that time, I was about three or four years old in primary school. I took him to see the distance and the world more often. His life had just begun, and I hoped that I could influence him with my actions.
Pay more attention to getting things done, get rid of the uneconomical business of selling your time as soon as possible, and give yourself more say.
Will you be the same in seven years? I hope I can still maintain a beginner’s mind, a beginner’s mind of continuous learning, and truly be myself to make my family and friends around me better. The future is not scheduled, with you!
