With the girlfriend understanding association to now five years more fast six years, the house before also bought, ready to get married immediately, when the Chinese New Year, suddenly told me, break up, I think he can marry a better. And just like that, this stupid programmer was single again. It was a hammer blow to my heart. It made me want to rethink my understanding of love in light of my own past
I actually wanted to write a trilogy:
- What is love
- How do you love someone
- How to be loved
But I feel the last two are not qualified to write, after all, I am a loser in love…
What is love?
Love is the feeling produced after two people fall in love. What is love? First say what is like, like is a feeling, the feeling is divided into many kinds, like refers to the kind of specially used to describe the kind of beauty. What is beauty? Beauty is an indicator. The brain responds instantaneously to sensory input, and we say that the input that makes our brain feel good is beautiful. If something is pleasurable to our brain, we rate it as beautiful, and our relationship to an object is that we like it. And love describes the dynamic balance between two individuals (we’re just talking about people here) over time. We call it love.
Key words: people, mutual, long, dynamic balance, like mutual refers to two people are between each other, there is to have back and forth, there is output and input, namely: communication. Liking is a feeling of transience and immediacy. The degree of liking, the degree of pleasure generated by the brain, may rise or fall depending on external factors.
Love refers to the fact that the degree of liking, an instantaneity measure, is recorded over a relatively long time line. On the vertical axis, the degree of liking is from 0 to 100. If it is less than 50, it is dislike, that is dislike. If it is greater than 50, it is like. Whatever it is, 0.0. Then you average your liking over a relatively long period of time. If it’s greater than 50, it’s love; if it’s less than 50, it’s not love. Over 70, I love you very much, but between 50 and 70, I don’t love you very much. (Relatively long term is a vague concept, which varies from person to person. I will not give too much description here, but personally, a week, two weeks, a month, two months is not called long term. It is better to do it in years.)
It said love. Now it says love. If the average of my liking for you is greater than 50 in a relatively long time, then it can mean that I love you. And the situation where I love you and you love me, we call it love. Of course, love is also a state of dynamic balance with a timeline. What is dynamic equilibrium? If two people A and B love each other on average 60, and B love each other on average 90, then B will think that A does not love him, in fact, it is not love, relatively love. Say love is relative to AB two people outside, say not love is relative to each other. If the difference is small, like 75, 80, then we say that they are dynamically balanced, that they love each other very much, very much.
Well, now we know what it is to be in love. We can finally answer the question of what love is. Said before, love is two people love each other after the feelings. Falling in love is just a way of describing the feeling of liking. Love is the feeling produced after love, that is to say, love is not used to describe love, but to describe the result produced after love. The results I find too complicated to describe. But I think we can probably use some common words to try to explain it, but only part of it, not all of it. For example: the company, the crystallization of love, dependence, etc., are the results of love. We say that the child is the crystallization of love, feeling is a very good word, the child is really two people love each other after the result of a form of expression.
OK, I use words to organize my thoughts, just hope that I or everyone can have a relatively explicable understanding of love, which is a relatively abstract thing. Of course everyone has their own understanding, the only constant is to wish everyone happiness.