Some people enter Tsinghua or Fudan university to redeem themselves with the environment; Some mistakes into the college can also enter a world; Do not think that the outcome of the college entrance examination or an interview is decided, as long as the inner light can burn for yourself, keep burning, every time you lose your direction, just look at the inner light, everything will not be afraid……
I saw a paragraph on Weibo I like very much: “We are still young, young to do a lot of things, one by one to do, to do, to practice. Don’t talk about something simple and plain. You have never seen, experienced, enjoyed, or shaken anything. You don’t even know what you like or belong to. Life is about extracting essence from complex experiences and reinventing ourselves, not about refusing to grow and sinking.”
Indeed, every time I reinvented myself, it was painful, because I always fell into deep self-reproach and felt unworthy. But time heals, and once we’re out of the pain, we still have to embrace it, embrace it, and assimilate the experience into our own flesh and blood.
Aesthetics “Three Views Overturned by Universities”
Before I went to college, I could say that most of my energy was focused on study.
Once upon a time, I thought that those who made up were “bad girls” and that girls were the most beautiful without makeup.
Until I went to college…
I find that girls with good makeup get picked up all the time;
I noticed that the teacher always liked to talk to the girls who looked prettier.
I’ve found that well-groomed women always do better in interviews;
Slowly, I realized how naive I had been:
The point of dressing up is not to show off, but to make yourself look more appropriate and classy. What a better look really reflects is a good aesthetic, having seen better things, knowing yourself, paying attention to detail, being educated, not too lazy and willing to constantly raise your sights.
In order to maintain peak physical performance at a metabolically active age,
I have formed the habit of going to bed early and getting up early;
I loved working hard at the gym.
I would put down my chopsticks when I was 70 percent full;
I will research my makeup and hair styles.
Although I know I have a very ordinary face, I can make myself more beautiful by toning up my body and smiling with confidence and sunshine.
Love view “Three Views Overturned by the University”
I believe most people were taught by their parents when they first entered college: “Don’t fall in love in college, but after graduation, you should study hard in college.”
For fear of making a mistake, our parents always wanted us to be late to love. They expect us to study hard, meet the right person as soon as we enter the society, and then get married and have a stable and happy family life before the age of 30… What seems like a perfectly planned life is not as simple as we think.
In my life, I have met too many people who dare not fall in love and who can’t.
The first kind of people are afraid to fall in love.
Some people are happy with their life and don’t need another person to insert themselves into it. And the other is always thinking you’re not good enough to meet another person.
My classmate, Xiao Q, belongs to the latter. She also met a man of the opposite sex who made her become a heartthrob and wanted to develop into a man and woman friend. However, the reason why she did not take the last step is that she felt she was too ugly to match the other side. Look closely at small Q, although she does not have delicate V word face, beautiful big eye, but facial features combination rises or especially comfortable, absolutely do not have her own imagination in so bad.
If we can’t accept ourselves, how can anyone else accept us? We have to make ourselves better, and we have to trust that there are people out there who can see it in us.
The second kind of people are those who can’t fall in love.
My friend D, who has had six or seven girlfriends since he started college, is breaking up with his eighth girlfriend. The eighth girlfriend is his oldest one, more than 100 days, he is struggling with whether to break up with her, asking for help in the group. It seems to me that this is a particularly typical type of person in a relationship, someone who can’t fall in love.
Little D said that he was so short of love that he wanted to make up for it as soon as possible, so every time he saw a beautiful girl or a girl who was really nice to him, he wanted to develop a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship with her. This is actually a very irresponsible behavior, and D’s decision is always supported by superficial reasons: because she looks good, because she pays special attention to me today, because she always talks to me…
However, when deciding whether or not to enter into a relationship, we should consider: are the two parties from similar backgrounds? Do the two sides share similar values? What are the prospects for the future?
When you are in a relationship, do not hold the expectation that the other person will change for you, because values, love and money, which are built up from past experiences, will not be easily changed by a relationship.
The Road Less Traveled defines love in this way: “Love is the will to improve oneself in order to promote the mental maturity of oneself and others.”
Views on money “Three Views Overturned by Universities”
I used to feel like I had a rough idea of my financial situation, how much money I actually had and how much I had on each card.
Once I happened to look through a monthly bill and found that I had a lot of strange expenses. I took out the computer to add them up and found that although each sum was small, it did not add up to a small sum. Then I looked back over the details of the bill and found that I couldn’t come up with a convincing reason to spend money.
If the mind is not very clear, wealth will be like suffering from a disease of vision, can not find the focus.
In order to get rid of their bad habit of spending money, I also tried to keep accounts, every day to write their income, expenditure in a book.
I gave up after less than a month.
Every time I keep track of my expenses, I feel guilty: Why did I spend so much again? Is it really worth the expense?
In order to make myself comfortable, I chose to turn a blind eye and go back to spending money. There will be no guilt if you spend money mindlessly but can’t remember exactly how much you spent.
However, after reading some books on wealth management, The Road to Financial Freedom and Poor Dad Rich Dad, and participating in a few cash flow games, I found that bookkeeping is a way of being responsible for your own money and your life. We should not for the sake of bookkeeping and bookkeeping, but should analyze the meaning of each sum of money behind our bookkeeping.
If it’s a necessary expense, tell yourself that money flows and that it’s good to give it away.
If it’s non-essential, ask yourself if it’s consumer or investment spending, for immediate pleasure or for the future.
Before SPENDING money, I now ask myself a few questions: Is it necessary spending? If it’s a non-essential expense, will it add value to my future? Or was it just satisfying my fleeting gratification?
Money is energy, like water, like a friend, like a companion. If we treat him or her in a confused way, do not respect or love him or her, and from time to time there is a psychological aversion to rejection. Which friend or partner won’t eventually leave you?
No matter at that stage of life, our three values are constantly being broken and reshaped: money, love and beauty. It is these views that make up individuals of different personalities. There is no good or bad, no right or wrong, only suitable. Suitable three views can lead us to spiral up in the environment, continue to grow, meet a better self.