* “* Live up to the time and keep creating. This paper is participating in the 2021 Year-end Summary Essay Contest”

Background introduction

I am a post-90s, a new wife, a new jinbao mother, a daughter of an ‘old hand’. 2021 was a year of reflection for me, and it was the first time I shared my life in this community.

wife

In early 2020, I started my marriage. From being an ignorant girl to being someone else’s wife, there was an extra person in my life, and my life changed a lot. Up to now two years of marriage life, there are arguments have joy, laughter and tears. My husband is a cheerful person, while I am a little introverted compared to him. It was his openness that helped me get over a bad experience and I learned a lot from him. After I got married, I began to have more requirements on him in life, such as laundry, cooking and housework, among which he was not willing to live and argued with me. As a wife, I hope that no one will miss the growth of this marriage, but also hope that I can become a qualified wife. We have a baby this year, most of my energy is focused on the child, there are more expectations for my husband, but also ignore his care. Until the husband oral ulcer is more serious, that day I come home from work to see him, also don’t say don’t want to eat rice, not the love eat porridge who drank for a week just for porridge, just think if I was ignoring his concern, so I give their advice is: you have children, so can’t ignore their partners to be more concerned about instead. Here I still want to say to my husband: the rest of my life is very long and very short, we still want to warm each other.

Bao mother

Today, my baby is one year old. Last December, we welcomed the crystallization of love – Nannan. I began to nervous busy every day, in Suzhou after the month almost home New Year’s Day, put out the holiday father came out to work, my baby and I at home. I took the baby back to my own home, although everything has to do by myself, but still very happy. The only thing is that I am really tired. I started to take care of the baby after the first month. It is also because of my personality that I like to do everything by myself and do not want to bother others. Later, I returned to Suzhou and started a few months of baby life. After going to work, I feel more powerless. Fortunately, my husband is also very helpful. When I make moves, I make moves. It’s been a year of feeding, sleeping and raising babies. From the beginning of the dare not change diapers to now everything can come by themselves, from once swollen milk cry to now rough flesh thick day after day feeding milk, from the beginning of a spoonful of rice noodles to now their congee noodles. I want to say to him: Mom is the first time to be a mother, but also hope to do better in the future.

daughter

I will be 28 years old, in the eyes of my mother is still a child. This year, I have a child. While reminding me to pay attention to my baby, she is also the only one who reminds me to pay attention to my body to eat more and have a good rest. But I only owe her. I stayed at home with my baby at the beginning of the year. On the one hand, I spent more time with her, but I only bothered her. After two weeks, I returned to Suzhou with my husband’s call. (My mother is a rheumatoid patient with a history of more than 20 years and other complications.) Although I can accompany her at home, she is too much trouble, and she blames herself for not being able to take care of her children. Since I had a child this year, I have neglected to care for her, accompany her, let alone talk to her. When I get home from work, I have to put her to bed with a video that I watch for a few minutes. I couldn’t say anything serious for a week. Once in a while, I remembered to ask her if she was missing something. I told her, but I forgot. This was supposed to be my time to return the favor, take care of her, and I left her behind. And this year I owe her nothing.

Self summary

In 2021, I gained my own small family and began to move away from my family of origin. Here I also want to say to my husband, baby and mother: I will work harder for the rest of my life.