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Phrasing is tricky. How do we master the art of turning “NO” into “YES”?
By reading this article, we can increase our chances of getting a “YES” answer by 2-3 percent, just by reading it and practicing it.
Pay special attention to the wording before and after the use of “recipe”.
The ultimate goal is to master the recipe so thoroughly that it can be used unconsciously. The more you reuse it, the more you get.
❌ : Wrong demonstration
🐘 : What the other party thinks
✅ : Correct demonstration
Three steps to turn “NO” into “YES”
1. Not speaking your mind directly
I want my family to eat oranges
❌ : Here, eat the rest of the citrus.
If it’s an important request, come up with it after you “read the other person’s mind.”
Figure out the other person’s psychology
Don’t take your point of view, think about what the other person likes. Guess how they would feel about your request based on how they behave.
🐘 : can’t just eat up citrus, don’t want to catch a cold.
3. Consider words that are in the other person’s interest
Align your interests with those of the other party.
✅ : Eat more citrus will not catch a cold.
7 Ways to turn “NO” into “YES
1. Do what they like
Is the most basic, but also the most useful.
By doing what they like, you can not only gain their goodwill, but also achieve their expectations.
1) Sell leftover shirts
❌ : Sorry, this is the only shirt of this kind left.
🐘 : others pick the rest, I’m afraid there are a lot of people tried on, if very popular, would like to buy.
✅ : This shirt is selling like hot cakes. This is the last one.
2) Sell the leftovers
❌ : Sorry, there are only fish left.
🐘 : I’m not a recycling center.
✅ : Sauteed white fish with high quality herbs, mineral rich natural rock salt and coarse black pepper, as well as plain beef.
3) Sell delicious yamada arum
❌ : Yamada arum.
🐘 : Sweet potato is just sweet potato after all, want to eat especially delicious things.
✅ : Raw caramel taro.
4) Let manufacturers, accustomed to undercutting prices, buy higher-priced goods
❌ : Let’s make high spec models at a high price.
🐘 : We have several navigation systems, but we lack representative flagship models.
✅ : Let’s make your flagship model.
5) Turning down a date because of work
❌ : I have to work overtime today, I can’t come to the date.
🐘 : The other side does not take me seriously.
✅ : Sorry, I suddenly have work to do, but I miss you more.
Watch for evil
It’s a powerful last resort that works with people who are hard to convince. Be careful where you choose to use and avoid continuous use.
1) Do not want anyone to touch the exhibits
❌ : Do not touch the exhibits.
🐘 : do not want to be ordered, do not want to let the drug on the hands, may be harmful to the body.
✅ : Coated with medicine, do not touch.
2) Make your husband close the toilet seat if he can’t
❌ : Close the toilet seat.
🐘 : Have the awareness to avoid losing money.
✅ : I heard that if you don’t fit the toilet seat, you’ll lose your fortune.
3) Let the mother, who has been ignoring her naughty children, help her change.
❌ : In order to avoid disturbing other guests, could you please seat your children?
🐘 : Since it’s a family restaurant, it’s ok to be a little noisy. I don’t want the baby to get burned.
✅ : Freshly cooked dishes are very hot. If they are knocked out, they will cause serious burns to children. Could you please return the child to his seat?
4) A warning to minimize book theft
❌ : Stealing is a crime!
🐘 : Hate getting arrested.
✅ : Thanks to everyone’s help, we caught the thief.
Freedom of choice
The key is to give two suitable options so that whichever the other person chooses will work for you.
Use your freedom of choice to guide your partner without feeling forced.
1) Sell dessert
❌ : Would you like some dessert?
🐘 : Not very sweet. Interested in which dessert to choose.
✅ : We have mango pudding and matcha ice cream for dessert. Which would you like?
2), let the children who do not want to wear shoes subconsciously wear shoes
❌ : Wear shoes.
🐘 : do not like to be forced to wear shoes, hope to have the freedom of independent choice.
✅ : Which pair do you want to wear, the blue shoes or the red shoes?
3) Let those who do not want to attend union meetings
❌ : Please attend the union meeting.
🐘 : I have other things to do. Be willing to choose your favorite bento.
✅ : Which do you want, roast rice or pork chop rice?
4) When you want your family to help you
❌ : xx, take out the garbage.
🐘 : Prefer to choose simpler things.
✅ Which do you prefer, taking out the trash or cleaning the bathroom?
Have two choices prepared, A and B, which should not affect the result. In other words, no matter which one the other chooses, you will achieve your goal.
5) when you want to invite your sweetheart
❌ Can I invite you to dinner this weekend?
🐘 : Want to go to famous restaurants and fit your schedule.
✅ : which famous Italian restaurant can only book a table this Friday or Saturday, when are you free?
4. Want to be recognized
Great effect for business and family! Relationships will improve.
By taking advantage of the need for approval, the other person will be willing to respond to expectations, even if it is difficult.
1) I want my husband to clean the Windows
❌ : You wipe the window! I’m swamped.
🐘 : I don’t want to bother. I have work to do every day. He likes to be told he’s tall.
✅ : You can reach higher places and make the Windows brighter. Come on.
2) Restore confidence in the trust that intends to quit
❌ : Can’t even do this little thing?
🐘 : Lack of confidence in work. I want to go to work with confidence.
✅ : never mind, xx you can do it! Clients are expecting to hear it from you.
3), let the child do not want to take the initiative to hold hands
❌ : It’s dangerous here. Take my hand.
🐘 : Wants to be treated like an adult.
✅ : I am very afraid of a person, can you take my hand to cross the road together?
You have to
It’s tempting to hear that you’re the only one who’s special.
Using “no choice” makes the other person feel superior and willing to respond.
1) Persuade others to attend the company cocktail party
❌ : Go for a drink?
🐘 : do not want to attend the company’s cocktail party. Love when people think they’re special.
✅ : xx, you do not come not lively, so only XX you must attend ah.
2) Turn complaints into favorites
❌ : We will replace it for free.
🐘 : Like to enjoy unique services.
✅ : We only support the company’s xx Mr. You free replacement.
3) Which is more important, my job or me?
❌ : Sorry, but I don’t work because I like it.
🐘 : not taken seriously by him, I hope he only takes me seriously.
✅ : SORRY, but only xx you, I don’t want you to think so. I’m sorry. I’m useless.
6. Teamwork
“Together” is a pleasant word in itself.
The use of “teamwork” can create a sense of partnership, even if the troublesome request, will be willing to accept.
1) Hope someone else will organize the reception
❌ : Why don’t you organize the party?
🐘 : too troublesome, not equal to oneself a person organization. Love to hear the “together” request.
✅ : Let’s organize the party together.
2) Persuade your father, who is completely inactive, to start exercising
❌ : Get some exercise.
🐘 : Don’t want your daughter to be in danger. Love to hear the “together” request.
✅ : I think night run, but oneself a person is afraid, can you accompany me to run together?
7, thank you
The perfect time to say “thank you” on average 31 times a day. Using “thank you” brings you closer and makes it harder for the other person to say “NO”.
Thanks can make the other person feel more trusting, making it difficult to refuse.
1) Ask them to move the table.
❌ : Move this table.
🐘 : not their own duty, do not want to be ordered. I would gladly do so, if I could be thanked.
✅ : Take this table away, thank you!
Tips: It’s more effective to use multiple breakthroughs at once than just one.
8 Tips for Creating Epigrams
People who can move people’s hearts must have “epigram”.
No figure in history, no entrepreneur or leader in the present day, does not have an epigram. Want to complete a thing, need to have the praise, and want to win the praise, it is necessary to move people’s epigram.
1. “Surprise method”
Instant recipes. It’s the basic of the basic.
Create a step
- 1) Determine what you want to convey.
- 2) Add appropriate surprise words.
Common example
- Oh gee! Wait a minute!
- Shock the nation!
- Oh oh! You are my best friend!
- Ah! Great value for money.
- I want to be one Piece King!!
- Ah! You can learn to ride a bike in half an hour!
Amazing word
- ah
- Wow!
- A fright
- Oh oh oh
- It turns out to be
- Oh my!
- Hard to believe
- shock
2. Contrast Method
Remember this recipe even if you forget all the others.
Put your message together with antonyms to form an impressive message.
As long as you can create contrast, you can create quotes. Can make the same thing, to the heart of the mind.
Create a step
- 1) Determine what you want to convey most.
- 2) Add opposites in the first half of the sentence.
- 3) Feel free to add other words to connect them with each other.
Common example
- It’s like a dream, but it’s not a dream.
- Gold at best, gold at worst.
- Heaven does not make human beings, nor human beings.
- The flavors are deep and refreshing.
- Beauty and the Beast.
- A large takoyaki that made the plate look very small.
- It’s more fun to be a pirate than to join the navy.
- If you attack me, I will attack and repay you double!
3. “Naked Method”
A face-burning, embarrassing, revealing “phrased recipe”.
Create a step
- 1) Determine what you want to convey most.
- 2) Turn your physical reactions naked into words.
- 3) Put “naked words” in front of what you want to say.
Common example
- I feel great!
- You tried hard. I feel it!
- I like you, infatuated to even feel puzzling.
- I’ve never played a game as intoxicating as today. Very happy, really even tears came out.
- Dreams don’t come out, they come out of the heart.
- It’s a blank SLATE.
- The big, breath-stopping takoyaki.
- I’m nervous. My throat is dry, my palms are sweaty, and I’m surprised at how many pores I have!
- I cried… That’s good.
Naked word
- Face: Can’t help it.
- Throat: Purr.
- Lips: Lick your lips.
- Breathing: Pauses in breathing.
- Eyes: Want to close.
- Hair: Hair stands erect all over the body.
- Skin: Goose bumps.
- Mind: a blank.
- Palms: Sweaty.
- Fingertips: flutter.
- Blood flow: Gets faster.
4. “Repetition method”
A very, very simple “phrased recipe”.
Through repetition, it infuses emotion, which not only tends to stay in one’s memory, but also makes one want to imitate it.
Create a step
- 1) Determine what you want to convey.
- 2) Repeat.
Common example
- Don’t worry, don’t worry. Take a break. Take a break.
- Oh, no, no, no.
- I have a dream… I have a dream… .
- Can’t run away, can’t run away, can’t run away.
- Romeo, Romeo! Why must you be Romeo?
- Comaneci! Comaneci!
- Very big! Big takoyaki.
- Boo girl, boo girl, boo girl, son of the fish.
- Neighbor Totoro, Totoro, totoro, totoro.
5. “Orgasm method”
This is extremely important, please don’t forget.
Use the orgasm method to make the other person feel that what comes next is important and must be listened to! To focus.
Create a step
- 1) Don’t blurt out your “message.”
- 2) Start with climax words.
Common example
- Here the test will show that the area of a triangle is… .
- The RE I had to protect finally appeared… That’s you.
- There are only two choices — live hard or die hard.
- I will give a blunt answer — throw away money and fame and what is left is life.
- There’s a question… I was wondering.
- The next forbidden photo… Takoyaki.
- Just listen to the following part, you are not in vain… Look at the example.
Orgasm glossary
- Please keep it a secret.
- You’ll see that on the quiz.
- You’re lucky you heard that.
- I’ll just say it here.
- Next, no photos.
- Just say it once.
- It won’t be disclosed otherwise.
- Just tell you one person.
- I’m going to make my confession.
6. “Numbers”
This is the “phrased recipe” that more than 95% of people don’t know.
Just adding numbers to a statement can do a lot to draw attention to it.
Odd trees such as 1, 3, 5, 7 and 9 are more angular and intense.
Create a step
- 1) Determine what you want to convey.
- 2) Replace with appropriate numbers.
Common example
- One is 300 meters.
- Wording accounts for 90%.
- The Silver Railway 999.
- 101 dalmatians.
- Cook in 3 minutes.
- Three times the size of takoyaki.
- Genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration.
7. “Combination Method”
Tide illuminator — combination method.
Most things that are new in the world are a combination of two things.
Create a step
- 1) Choose the main words.
- 2) Prepare a large number of synonyms to replace minor core words.
- 3) Combination.
Common example
- Monster watch.
- Lazy mascot.
- Colbes water.
- Cool Biz.
- Wall dong.
- Store manager for children.
- Baseball takoyaki.
- Herbivorous man.
- Marriage is in progress.
8. “Vertex Method”
The vertex method is the most commonly used “diction recipe” for creating an incentive to buy goods.
People are intensely interested in the things that are at the top, not the things that are next or even below.
Create a step
- 1) Determine what you want to convey.
- 2) Add appropriate vertex words.
Common example
- The first crush.
- The home run king of dim Sum.
- TOP.
- In the No. 1.
- Recommended by the manager.
- Sales No. 1.
- The most wanted class in the world.
- For me, that place is the king of chicken kebabs!
- On my Michelin scale, I’d give that place three stars.
Four,
Muscles that have been hard built will decay when not used. Use it regularly in your daily life — it’s a way to keep your muscles from wasting away and open up a straight path through life.
Reference links:
- 1. “Emotional Intelligence is the ability to speak”
- 2. The Art of Communication — Seeing People Out and Seeing people In