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Programmers go home for the Spring Festival, the most worried thing is not afraid of relatives ask how much income, but: do you have a partner? \

Although every day “object-oriented programming”, often a new object, but:

Now it’s 2019, Chinese people are imaginary, people born in 1990, already 30 years old!

30 is still young in my eyes, but:

In the eyes of their elders, finding a partner is more important than anything else:

In feudal society, the law of some dynasties stipulated that people who did not get married at the legal age should be punished or put in prison. \

Status quo and Suggestions

Programmers are highly intelligent, earn more money than most industries, and are not unattractive, but they have a very high rate of singles. What’s going on?

Let’s analyze why:

1. Busy work and limited circle of friends

More work pressure, more overtime, less time for romance. As for overtime work, here is not said, overtime home, it is already very late, how have time to fall in love!

Make friends range is very narrow, work time basically can meet male programmer, occasionally have a few female programmer, also have a master, not round.

Suggestion: the job is busy, but lifelong event still has to care about! Spare time to attend more friends and classmates of the party, more opportunities to meet the opposite sex.

Blind dates are a good way to do this. It is best to be introduced by older people who are considerate.

You may not know how you are perceived by others. Take a look at the people you are introduced to, and you will be perceived that way.

Important hint: do not easily refuse others to introduce the object, this will give a person a bad impression, refused once, may be others of others will not introduce you.

2. Not focusing on body image

Programmers tend to dress casually and are generally considered to be not tasteful enough. Everyday clothing is a for loop:

Take a negative example: there was a guy from Ali who wore special shoes to a blind date, but was rejected by a girl for one reason: Wearing special shoes was very informal!

Guy in alibaba as a senior r&d engineers, level of the average salary for decades or even hundreds of millions of, it also reflects the programmer survival mourn, and the status quo of the high salary but don’t have time to spend, overtime is serious to have no time to date, narrow social circle can only through the way of dating to meet girls, wear xtep shoes also indirectly reflect the programmer did not attach enough importance to date, After all, blind date is a very important thing. Girls in the premise of not understanding you, the first to give others a bad first impression!

Advice: to date and blind date, do not wear too casual, you feel that it does not matter, the girl feel that you do not respect her enough, impressions are greatly discounted.

You don’t have to wear designer clothes, but dress appropriately and make it seem like you’re taking the date seriously.

3. Poor communication skills with the opposite sex

Question: which of the following would programmers prefer to talk to: (Figure 1: senior programmer, Figure 2: pretty girl)

The answer is unexpected: programmers are more likely to talk to Fig1, or at least have something in common. If they talk to Fig2, they soon reveal that they are not good at communicating with the opposite sex.

Take a look at a typical programmer chat:

  • Too active

It’s okay for boys to be proactive. \

But, notice, “a little.”

  • lovers

I know how good you are, how hard you work.

But remember, machine learning doesn’t appeal to girls.

Not the front end, not the algorithm, not Java/C++.

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Advice:

A lot of programmers talk to girls and they run out of ideas.

In fact, chatting with girls is also to master some skills, otherwise make yourself embarrassed and let the girls do not like you:

1, chat can go to please the girl, will let the girl’s impression of you minus points;

2, at the beginning of the chat to girls express a strong impression, most of the girls will be scared away by you;

3. It is very impolite to ask for photos and phone numbers before talking to others.

4, chat not too catch up, with the girl reply number, reply speed is almost good;

Girls are emotional animals, don’t talk about facts, reason, occupy IQ heights in the chat;

Complaining is the patent of girls, boys still want more positive energy;

If the girl is not favorable to you, the confession 99% will fail, confession is the horn of victory, rather than the horn of the charge;

Praise to use your head, refuse to rotten sea;

The girl said she went to the shower, if an hour has not returned to you, that is people don’t want to deal with you;

Don’t message bombing, the girl did not reply to you, then wait for her back, don’t send more than 3 messages to the girl.

Last but not least, remember: men who reason with women have IQ problems.

Other suggestions:

  • First of all, to improve their self-cultivation, read more books, watch classic movies, such as douban TOP100 movies, after watching will definitely improve their self-cultivation and emotional intelligence.

  • Go to parties more, talk less, listen more, see what other people are talking about, and know what the trends are.

  • Go to the mall once in a while without buying anything and see what’s in fashion, so you can have some common topics.

  • People who can’t find a partner have a common characteristic: they can’t leave the computer and mobile phone after work. The partner is not new, but needs to find.

  • Don’t turn a blind eye and refuse to be indifferent like the picture below:

    Conclusion:

    This paper analyzes the reasons of single programmers from several aspects, and gives some suggestions.

    Finally, good luck to all programmers who find someone in 2019.

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