The status quo of the majority

No matter you in and out of the workplace, relatives and friends, no matter you are the elder unmarried, or have parents, even if you have small successful, or fame and fortune, I still believe there is always a group of people, discontented in various circles, roles, desire, surrounded by different anxiety, look around the present situation of the age of colleagues, relatives and friends, everything is self-evident. The original intention of writing this article is to hope that we can all put anxiety in perspective and deliver two messages to you at the same time: 1. Do not do industrious lazy; 2. You are not alone and you have never lost an opportunity.

(a midlife crisis), the age of 30 or so no room and start a family in a second-tier cities (no growth assets, and in the future there is still a lot of spending), capital market continued to cool (although this is that the recovery in the short term, but history evolution is always in the weak), new technology, new concept updates faster and faster (one is finite, while knowledge is infinite. With the end with the end, dangerous already! The past is the knowledge, almost just! . This is the reality of most Internet practitioners (well, much more) these days. This situation undoubtedly makes more and more people feel anxious, especially those who have higher expectations for themselves and are difficult to break through the bottleneck. Of course, there are people who are ignorant no matter how the world changes, and they are not in the scope of our discussion today.

Based on the prevailing situation above, more and more people find business opportunities: 1. 2, poison chicken soup rob flow. First of all, I’m a proponent and beneficiary of payment for knowledge. However, whenever the demand for a certain area grows too fast, it is inevitable that a group of water army will take the opportunity to seek profits, and the good and bad are mixed, so that the cost of obtaining valuable information continues to rise. From the once-popular training classes in the past few years to the paid columns and live lectures on online platforms, there are many people who are full of promises when paying tuition fees. Is it the problem of the teaching institutions and lecturers, or is it the problem of the learners’ insufficient learning ability or giving up halfway? I think it’s all wrong. The public account and we media of chicken soup class are reaping people’s attention and time everywhere. But was drowned by the toxic chicken soup, can only admit that more because of personal cognitive level determines the ability to recognize.

If you think that selling anxiety is limited to those in business, then you haven’t thought deeply about it. It seems to me that anyone who exploits people’s anxiety to do something better for them is an anxiety peddler. What’s more, they induce anxiety and then exploit it. If you look closely, there are plenty of them around. Many friends and family even unconsciously increase your anxiety and motivate you to do something… There is no distinction here between good and bad subjective consciousness. In short, we should have strong enough self-control and discrimination ability, so as to avoid ourselves and the people around us from being manipulated by others. Refuse to be cannon fodder and direct your own destiny.

My struggles

I’d like to share my thoughts on the current situation, and I’d love to hear your thoughts on personal growth and the current situation.

Apparently my status is still of the above (no way, I begin to understand late), so once I also anxiety, IQ has also been received tax, but fortunately was a year ago to clear himself what to do, what do you want, so now the state of the overall is good, every day to be able to feel real progress than yesterday, whether it’s professional skills, or other fields of knowledge, They are constantly building on each other, gradually becoming self-contained. If you’re feeling this way, I’m sure you can kiss anxiety goodbye. As for how to completely get out of the shadow of anxiety and find their own direction and goals, I carefully recalled my mental journey during that period, and roughly summarized as follows:

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  1. Figure out what anxiety is.

    Dissatisfaction with the status quo + inability to change the status quo + uncertainty about the future = anxiety

  2. Where does anxiety come from?

    Combined with the previous point, anxiety mainly comes from the following sources:

    1. The confusion and helplessness of career development
    2. The growth rate is too slow or even stops
    3. Horizontal contrast between people
    4. Too far from my expectations
    5. I have no clue what’s going on in my life
    6. Scientific and technological progress accelerated social change

  3. How to cure anxiety thoroughly?

    Also combined with the above analysis, appropriate medicine:

    1. Human energy is limited. Genius who can do anything does exist, but believe me, none of us are. Instead of trying to learn everything, take a moment to analyze it. Find a direction in your field that is indispensable for the foreseeable future, and spend a few years perfecting it. (Don’t complain that you are too busy to think or do, at least you always have a choice.)
    2. There must be a way to learn to follow, the best way is to find you as soon as possible to come into contact with the industry and (must be the man who can tell the truth), there is no opportunity to focus on their dynamic, blogs, and they can go faster than you, there must be a lot of merit, ways of thinking, attitude to new things, willing to share and summary of spirit, etc., Find your benchmarks (not many, one or two will do), do them, and forget the word “crash course.” The best methods must come from continuous practice and summary, not simple imitation.
    3. You’ll often find, wow, this kid is years younger than me, and he’s better at everything! In fact, this is not worth any sigh of fact, “Teacher Said” once said: “Born after me, his knowledge of tao is also my first, I learned it from the”, “learned tao in succession, skills have specialisms”. People are born with different congenital conditions, even if the congenital conditions than you later stronger than you, there is no comparison. Because not only do you have to admit that hard work is important, but luck is important, too. What determines luck is our attitude to the world. Accept not good enough to do their own, do what they should do, excellent people are used to learn, rather than foil their own down and out.
    4. Reasonable goals are the premise, otherwise it is tantamount to giving yourself a losing endgame and a vicious circle of self-denial. To a large extent, people’s happiness comes from being satisfied with their narcissistic feelings. Whether they fall in love or make friends, it is because they recognize you and satisfy your narcissistic feelings, so they can stimulate your potential. Similarly, reasonable goals are the best way to encourage yourself, and achieving them periodically creates a positive cycle of self-approval, continuous progress, and narrowing of the gap with higher expectations.
    5. For one reason, education is negatively correlated with the acceptability of marriage for procreation (mission accomplished). That is, if you don’t want to settle for one person, you don’t want to settle for any of them. The second reason is that the rapid development of society has destined the young generation to be in a state of high pressure, and this state will continue for the foreseeable future. This state determines that there are fewer and fewer scenes to contact with the reliable circle of the opposite sex. These two reasons are also the truth that the fertility rate has been declining since the popularization of higher education. The third reason is that you are not proactive enough. In fact, there are many suitable people waiting for you to take the initiative. Don’t be a glass heart, how will you know if you don’t try?
    6. No matter how advanced the technology is, how the society changes, if you can’t catch up with the change, let’s not catch up, but think about what is unchanged from another perspective. Before we do that, let’s make a distinction between two words, trend and trend. At first glance they seem to be synonyms, but in many cases they are polar opposites, but they interact with each other, similar to the relationship between the deep currents of the ocean and the raging waves we see. The undercurrent is the trend, which is the general direction determined by the human community. Its strength is often irresistible and it takes a long time to gradually emerge. Trends change so quickly that they cannot be captured, but they are the embodiment of the undercurrent. What does this have to do with what we’re trying to say? To put it simply, if you are busy following the latest trends, following the latest trends and learning the latest trends, it is like surfing. Even if you get a promotion or a raise in a short period of time through a few waves, it is most likely a flash in the pan, only to be snapped into the bottom of the ocean by the next wave. If you look at the top people in the industry, they’re not all-rounders, and they all have the ability to change because they see what hasn’t changed and see what’s coming. So what’s constant, and how do you make predictions? Through continuous observation, learning and verification, I have come to the following two points:
      • One, basic human needs and nature. In light of this (assuming you have some knowledge of human nature and psychology), the predictions for the future are also fairly straightforward: focus on new science and technology, and think about how technology can better meet basic human needs and nature: scenarios in which demand far outstrips supply, or is about to hit the ground running.
      • Second, the law of social wealth distribution. The proportion of the poor seems to remain the same no matter how much wealth a society accumulates, and even if income per head continues to rise, that is only an illusion of the rich pulling up the average. This reflects that there are not many people who really do not bow to fate and are willing to pay the price for changing the status quo. Animals prefer to stay in their comfort zone, whether it’s environmental influence or an instinctive reaction to avoid harm, so if you can get out of your comfort zone and treat life like a marathon, you’ve always had a good chance. However, please give yourself time to grow, believe in the power of accumulation.

Back to reality

No matter how thoroughly the truth is understood, but people still want to live in reality, before sleeping full of blood, wake up lazy bed too many people, not bad you. How to learn to practice, this is the decisive factor to open the gap between people, when it comes to work, can not help but think of chicken soup… I personally find books and methodologies about perseverance, execution, and the like to be meaningless, or even bogus. I think the only determinant of success in anything is how badly you want it. Yes, failure at anything can be attributed to this: you didn’t want it enough. If it’s a matter of no choice to you, no alternative, no star priority, do you need perseverance? Need to find ways to improve execution? You’d kill to do something if you weren’t asked to do it, so make each goal meaningful enough that you have to do it. The next most important factor is what to do and how to do it, for which the reasons and schemes listed above are detailed enough. Do not do lazy diligent, is to pay attention to method and efficiency, refused to work hard. Choose the right direction, do the right thing, do the right thing, and time will do the rest.

The above is purely my personal experience on how to get rid of anxiety and how to do the current thinking steadfastly. I am not responsible for the right and wrong of any conclusions and the results, but I also hope to provide you with some references. Of course, I also readily accept any different values and views, welcome to exchange.

Sum up what I want to say

  1. Paying for learning is a good thing, if you’re not paying for it out of anxiety relief, but if you’re clear about what you want to do.
  2. If you are truly determined to be great, don’t focus on the money. Money is only part of growth when it comes to reality.
  3. Do not be impatient, calm down, improve their learning ability, cognitive ability, in order to better screening of valuable things.
  4. Don’t be afraid that your high standards for yourself will make you a loner. They are just afraid that you will grow up too fast and that you will never be alone.
  5. If you have no demands on yourself, just live each day happily and don’t complain. Complaining is the worst emotion. It only shows your incompetence.