01. Feeling depressed
Depression, generally refers to the spirit of depression, depression, mostly used for negative people; Sometimes it is also used elsewhere, for example, in the seventh and sixth chapters of a Dream of Red Mansions, there is a line: “Because he sighs again: ‘The poem is novel, but it is too depressed! ‘”
In any case, the topic associated with this word is rarely seen in moments; Because people need to project positive, positive images.
I’m a more freewheeling programmer. Dejected when also sent a circle of friends said:
As a result of a cold, the whole body is weak, the whole person is particularly depressed, so he took the opportunity to indulge himself. Stay up late to brush finished “chang ‘an 12 hour hour”, originally thought this teleplay on 12 sets, think one breath to see calculate, who knows to brush 12 sets still have 12 sets, my day. After brushing the TV series I feel not satisfied, and again after the TI9 match of DOTA2. It was eight years ago when I first hit the knife tower.
My original intention was to seek comfort, but as a result, a number of old readers left messages saying: “Brother, can you write an article to share this anxiety and depression?” And I thought, you know, using myself as a cautionary tale and kind of a reference for you, just write.
However, if you have a little regret before you write, you may get a lot of criticism: “Could you write something positive?” Can already promised old reader, za “cannot retreat”!
02, the cause of depression
There will always be periods in life when someone somehow falls into depression.
The cause of my depression is quite simple. It’s a cold. There are two kinds of colds, wind chill and wind heat. I belong to the former one, such a hot day, especially afraid of cold, a blow air conditioning headache, can not not blow; On a hot day, I had to add a waistcoat — it looked silly. The other thing is nasal congestion, severe nasal congestion, sleeping at night with your mouth wide open.
Do not know who said: “the cold take medicine need a week, do not take medicine, need seven days.” Really is very helpless ah, I ate a lot of bags of cold particles, not much use; Friends recommended “ginger + medlar + brown sugar” boil ten minutes of secret recipe is not how effective.
This physical malaise leads to mental depression. Reading can’t go down, writing can’t go down; I didn’t want to deal with my work. My boss asked me to go to work, but I didn’t want to go. I felt boring.
In short, I don’t want to do anything serious. So how do you make it through 24 hours a day?
Watching TV series is a great way, haha. The night before yesterday, MY eyes were too tired to open and I was very sleepy, but I couldn’t bear to go to sleep. Tanqi shouted unexpectedly woke up the sleeping wife, she saw I was still brushing drama, especially angry, just pull out the power and scold me to sleep.
There was no choice but to lie on the bed, but I could not sleep, tossing and turning, feeling that the endless darkness was about to engulf me.
The pressure of survival
To tell the truth, the pressure of survival in this society is still quite big – blame the society again.
I’ve basically given up on my main job, and going to the office is a way to give myself an excuse not to stay home. The reason I didn’t quit was that I had a relatively free commute to and from school, and the key was to earn some pocket money along the way.
These days, if the elderly can’t help with childcare, they really need a free commute. Because the wife works the system reason, the time does not have me so free; Plus, her working environment is much better than mine, so she earns more than me.
But then again, we were both middle class and had enough to eat and wear.
Inner anxiety mainly comes from how to a higher level!
My source of income is well known to many regular readers. Wages are one thing, outsourcing is one thing, writing fees are one thing. Originally high hopes for the revenue of the public account, has not been able to open the situation (this may be the main cause of anxiety).
Because of writing, I met a lot of bigwigs (often tens of thousands of monthly income, many many) and asked them for a lot of experience, but many of these operable methods are too lazy to practice, ashamed of it.
A dejected person like me
I know a lot of readers because of my writing, and every once in a while frustrated fellow programmers come to me for advice.
Xiao He, for example, said (I in parentheses meant “I”) :
Second brother, first of all, thank you for your friends (this really don’t need to thank, I am happy to be found, please add me). I am 32 years old and graduated from an unknown college (me too, afraid to mention the name or embarrass the college). Currently in Deep piao, engaged in the development of Java background. So far, nothing to show for it (shit, me either). I’ve been a tech blogger for two years, and this month I started my own public account (it’s really hard to do it and cherish it). But the energy is really inferior to young people, and the burden of family, their own level is also limited, want to become excellent, but always feel inferior to others. Aging, lack of energy, family responsibilities, career aspirations, I would like to ask my second brother how to balance the pressure of all aspects.
When I meet a reader like this, my first thought is to give him a big hug. I really don’t have any good advice.
I’ve met a lot of masters who magically give me a long piece of advice every time you throw a question. At that time, in addition to saying “taught”, is another “66.6” yuan red envelope.
I’m probably not alone in my plight and occasional depression. It reminds me of something Tolstoy wrote in Anna Karenina: “All successful people are successful, and all unsuccessful people fail in their own way.” (Slightly reworked)
How to get out of depression
The way out of depression is simple: watch TV!
I’m joking, but it’s a method I practice. People, the seven emotions and six desires will always have, sour, sweet, bitter, spicy and salty life to taste all the conditions, is complete.
In the twelfth Hour of Chang ‘an, an official of Jing ‘an had a conversation with his wife (the one sent to Luoyang by his uncle) :
I didn’t think how big an official I wanted to be. I just wanted to go back and help jing ANSI when he was in trouble.
This is right, the big world, there are always some awesome people (Zhang Xiaojing, Long Bo, Li Bi); But there are more ordinary people.
My most vivid memory of the supporting role has two: one is Cui Qi, one is Yao Runeng.
Cui Qi wants to mix in the splendid Chang ‘an a appearance, a elder brother paved a lot of road for him, for promotion, he even betrayed Zhang Xiaojing; But in the end, he died in Jingansi, a glorious soldier.
Yao Runeng was burdened with heavy burdens. His grandfather was Yao Chong, the prime minister of the Ming Dynasty, and he had also betrayed him. But he tried his best to stop tanqi.
People don’t have to be what they are — it’s not a mean thing, it’s the truth. Cui Qi and Yao Runeng both fell into depression, but how did they get out? Choose the good one.
Because of my writing, some readers praised me for being awesome, better than many others. And so on, I listened to them and thanked them for their praise, but I knew I was small. I am not good (hard fact), but also trying to run forward; But maybe three thousand steps forward, and then two thousand steps back.
6, the last
I, in the dejected time choose to let oneself dejected; But out of the depression of the time, and will be like playing chicken blood as desperately running forward.
How about you? How to do when depressed?
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