The road to a blind date

(13)

Old Pan did not come home for the Lunar New Year. He packed a room full of snacks and chose to live alone in Beijing. A lot of people say that wandering for a long time, it is easy to miss home, and I may be an exception.

I miss my family, but I don’t want to go home. However, in view of my father’s evil power, AND I do not have the courage of Lao Pan, I still pack up and go home.

First year on the job, saved some money. I bought an electric shaver for Lao Yao and a new cell phone for mom. Like most hard-working, down-to-earth Chinese parents, when they received the gift, they first smiled and then scolded me for spending money on them.

Old Yao was a boisterous person, especially fond of making a fuss. Every Spring Festival, he must set up a banquet, hospitality friends and relatives. When I was younger, I was in charge of serving tea and wine to them, so I was not qualified to serve dishes at the table. I was looking forward to growing up and drinking and eating with them.

Now, finally, I’m old enough to serve, and I just want to run away. The food, which my mother had spent so much time preparing, was still fascinating. Unappetizing were some of the older people around the table.

Some of their decadent ideas kept circling in my ears, which was very distressing. At the same time, they lambasted officials for corruption and urged young people to become officials, so that they could make a lot of money.

If you work in a bank, they will ask if you can borrow more money from the bank through the back door, with as little interest as possible, preferably no interest. If you work in the operator, they will ask the company is not free charge, can give them some discount, the best is 100 free 1000. I guess if you worked in the middle and south sea, they would probably ask you for a county magistrate or mayor.

Those people always dream of shortcuts and back doors, hoping to get to the top quickly. But in real life, but mostly timid as a mouse, is the kind of cautious, desperate to make a living.

During dinner, I heard too many words such as whose son dropped out of middle school to start a factory and made a fortune, and whose daughter studied for a master’s degree and became a fool. The theory of the uselessness of reading was prevalent at such dinners, and had a strong market. Some people rack their brains, thinking hard, with all kinds of examples around to support.

But when they saw me, they changed their attitude and often complimented me on my hard work, my attendance at a good college and my future prospects. This inconsistency and ambivalence struck me as particularly ridiculous.

I can’t escape being the subject of conversation at liquor fairs where dad isn’t around. However, after graduation, things changed a little bit after I got this job in a state-owned enterprise, and I should be a positive example for them to talk about.

However, I don’t like to be a positive example or a negative example.

(14)

New Year’s Eve shousui, the New Year bell rang on time, time came to the Lunar year of the Horse, my year. I was already 24 before I knew it. By the time I was 24, I would have trotted.

It was not yet dawn on the first day of the New Year. I got up early, put on the mother bought me a red, red vest, red long Johns, red socks. After a quick meal of dumplings, he followed several Cousins around the village to pay New Year’s greetings to the family elders.

In the past, the rules of the village are more, when the elders pay New Year’s greetings, you really need to kneel on the ground to kowtow. Now the taste of the New Year gradually faded, the rules are less and less, kowtow is also to save the province. After taking the door, the younger people mouth meaning, elders generally will come forward to help not to kowtow. We greet each other, chat a few words even if the completion of the New Year.

Of course, there are also some people who strictly adhere to the rules handed down from their ancestors. To visit their home, the younger generation must kowtow. Yao Qiansheng, the village party secretary, is one of them. Yao Qiansheng has been the party secretary of the village for 20 years and enjoys a high reputation in the village.

Twenty years ago he went south on business and made a fortune. Later when the village secretary, and to the village to pull a lot of business, to help a lot of people in the village set up a factory.

Yao Qiansheng led the village people to get rich, can be regarded as a “governing the world.” Many years of painstaking management, let him in the village clearly, at this time just like the appearance of a pair of soil emperor.

In building a new countryside, the government encourages villagers to contract land centrally, with a certain amount of subsidy from the state for each mu of land. Farming and subsidies, people naturally want a piece of the action. Yao Qiansheng, the village secretary, has a lot of power in this matter. Therefore, on holidays, his house is full of people.

As the younger generation of the same clan, we kowtow to Yao Qiansheng is also justified. However, some villagers with other surnames, not related to Yao Qiansheng, kowtow to pay New Year’s greetings, which is really sad.

All people in the world come and go for profit.

(15)

After worship, my mother and I in the kitchen for the next few days of the banquet busy. The most hard-working people during the Spring Festival are mothers, who are often busy until after midnight, taking care of the food and drink for their relatives and friends.

“Are you still in touch with the girl who came to our house to bring you books?” Mother chatted with me while making dumplings.

“Mom, when did that happen?” It was back in high school when girls delivered books. I can’t believe my mom remembers it’s been over five years. Bring it up again. She’s up to something.

“Boyar’s got a baby girl.” Mom starts a new conversation.

“So soon. I remember he only got married last summer. It seems that his daughter-in-law is a beginner with the ball.”

Bo Ya is my cousin. He got married at the age of 20 and has not yet reached the legal marriage age, so he has not received a marriage certificate. My mother’s insinuating remarks were a reminder that it was time to talk about marriage and having children.

Old Yao believed in the saying that a good mother makes a bad child. Therefore, whenever I made a mistake, he chastised me, whenever my mother came forward to explain, he would use this sentence to fall on my mother.

My mother took care of my psychology, she did not push me, only gently persuasion, for fear of stimulating my sensitive pride. Old Yao, on the other hand, is a dictator and doesn’t give a damn what you think. He had set about finding suitable girls for me, and had arranged for my mother to spread the word among the village women when she visited that I was single and seeking a man.

To say the university four years, I have what regret and regret. It is not that they did not study hard to obtain the qualification for postgraduate study; It’s not that I didn’t make my first bucket of money. It’s about not finding a girl who has the same interests, the same values, that we can hang out with.

In the university, I have been lonely, but also four footprints of happiness. Because of the love did not painstakingly manage, end up empty-handed, had to embark on the road of blind date.

I have some resistance to the apparently utilitarian nature of dating. In my opinion, blind dates always give people the feeling of making a deal. Both parties put their conditions and requirements on the table, compare and weigh each other.

If you feel comfortable with each other, move on. If it doesn’t work out, go back to your house and find your mom. At this time, family background is far more important than congenial feelings, friendship is also worth thousands of years after all, but graceful figure, breast.

It is undeniable that blind date eliminates the temptation and speculation in the relationship, but it also eliminates the ambiguous feelings in the love affair. After years of practice, it has some established rules: “unsuitable is poor, no feeling is ugly, love at first sight is good-looking, thoughtful is rich.”

For me, the only value of a blind date is “FROM the moment I meet a blind date, I can tell what the introducer thinks of me.” . Who the hell am I? Still waiting for my blind dates to test it.

With Yao on the agenda, I figured it wouldn’t be long before I had another chance to test myself.

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