Live up to the time, the creation of non-stop, this article is participating in 2021 year-end summary essay contest
Taken in Weihai in 2021.07.17
The magic of 2021 is over. Let’s talk about our experiences and feelings in the past year.
Start a family
The biggest achievement of this year is “getting married”. At the end of April to determine the wedding date, in early May non-stop to determine the wedding company, try wedding, try suits. June 6 at home to elaborate, complete the proposal. In July, the wedding photo company was finalized and the shooting was completed. August began with very intensive wedding planning communication. In September, I went home to try on makeup and purchase wedding house supplies. At the end of September, I went home one week ahead of schedule and purchased wedding supplies every day, repeatedly confirming all kinds of details.
The night before the wedding, I went home at about 2 am. The hotel was very close to my home. At night, the weather was a little cold and the street was quiet. Until the moment of the wedding, when the spotlight was on my bride, I couldn’t hold my breath.
In retrospect, be thankful, right place, right time and not affected by the outbreak, there are so many friends and relatives for help, have a home for my fuck broken heart, there are 10 hours train, the car will accompany me busy from morning till night college roommates, has become a full-time driver during the wedding good gay friends, have to spend a lot of time with my groomsman group rehearsals and arrangement, There is a long way to drive to the senior family, Lin Lin, can not thank one by one, thank you.
Separate work from life
The biggest takeaway this year is the ability to separate work and life a bit. In the first few years after graduation, I will find myself in a state of “always working”, where I am always in the context of work and always feel that the task is not finished. I will fall into a cycle of thinking about work when I rest and thinking about rest when I work. In the face of life, my mind is always erratic, and I am used to seeing life from the perspective of an observer. When I watch TV, I can’t keep my mobile phone away from my hand. Playing games feels like a waste of time; When chatting with friends, they also want to get something. In their own anxiety or memories, and very immersed in and substitute, repeated and setbacks and failure of the emotional consumption.
If this happens to you, try slowing down and doing one thing at a time, such as sitting on the couch and watching a show and shutting off your connection to the outside world to feel the characters and the story. For example, prepare a meal carefully, buy vegetables, wash vegetables, prepare vegetables, listen to the sound of the range hood, see the heat of food in the pot steaming.
In fact, this is how we live when we are young, and this is how life should be.
Let things happen naturally
This year I’ve come to realize that in order to do something well, it’s not about finishing as a goal, it’s not about using “discipline” and “willpower” to dictate how much work you have to do each day, it’s about creating an environment where you can do it consistently. In a situation without so much internal friction and wear to do these things, this thing will be more and more smooth, more and more do better.
We don’t have to find new things to torment ourselves and make trouble for ourselves. It’s ok to work hard, but there’s no need to roll, there’s no need to prove anything on this matter, because I found that it doesn’t prove anything. In this process, it is more important to know yourself and know yourself than to prove yourself. Learn not to berate yourself, not to overjudge yourself, but to focus more on what it is, to create value, and to serve your inner scoreboard.
Live in the moment and find yourself. Neither seeking delayed gratification nor anxious to obtain it in advance. Make peace with yourself, stop demanding that you be the best at something you’re not interested in, find a balance between your interests and your work, and let things happen naturally.
Invest and know yourself
In the first half of the year, I spent a lot of time on investment, read some books, learned a lot of basic theories and a series of financial instruments such as stocks, funds and convertible bonds, and established a relatively immature investment system, with good returns in 2021. However, I gradually found that this is not what I really pursue. The excitement lies more in the exposure to new fields. It is enough for me to be an investor with 80 points with basic literacy.
With a lot of good friends in the process connection is established, from talking money also connect E, then connect the MAO’s community and the teacher has a legendary weapons of China community partners, then connect the Meng Yan, knew a line met, learned a lot of nutrients, also let I recognize that investment is in order to better life, only stared at the account number is meaningless.
This year has given me some new insight into what I want to do, what I can do, and what I can’t do. What you can’t do is probably more important. For example, it is not feasible for me to study companies and buy individual stocks. For me, I have neither the time and energy nor the great interest. But I can realize the long-term upward trend of net worth curve through simple and effective strategies such as portfolio allocation of assets. I now follow the same strategy for my own life.
There are several other points that have more influence on me:
- Understanding the world is non-linear, jumpy, and unpredictable. Reduce your desire for control and adapt to change to improve your ability to cope.
- Understand the core causes of qualitative change, accelerate or wait for critical points, and reap the huge benefits of qualitative change. In markets, 80% of gains are made 20% of the time. For yourself, do what you want to do, wait for the possibility of the future, but not in a hurry to pursue the result, but allow it to grow, wait for it to bloom.
- Have the courage to give up short-term benefits during the accumulation period and do things that can contribute to the last one. For example, invest more capital and accumulate more work experience in the accumulation period.
- Work, arbitrage, investing, sideline business, personal influence — these are all modules that, taken apart, have the potential to become rich. But the unidirectional life is dangerous, the more modules, the more anti-fragile, the more likely to achieve 1 + 1 > 2 combo effect. We will try to continue exploring these modules this year.
Some detritus of life
Pieces of 1
The cleaning aunt and uncle met when moving, with the price of daily cleaning to do a deep cleaning work, but also in detail told us to pay attention to disinfection, cockroaches, finally after the time came, after going out worried that we will not clean the air conditioning, and back to help us deal with the air conditioning.
Pieces of 2
Got a haircut over the weekend, got hit in the eye by scaffolding at a construction site, thankfully only got a gash on his eyebrow. I also accidentally found a prescription and a small clinic at the door. I bought a bottle of iodine before the shop assistant got off work. The shop assistant’s aunt also helped to deal with the wound warmly.
3 pieces
At the end of August, I went to Tianjin with my friends for a short trip, which was much richer than expected.
After a quick wash, he hurried to the subway station, ate a breakfast of Yonghe soybean milk, and joined the army. The journey is not long, an hour or so, on the road also under the top of 100 minutes of delay to play you draw I guess, become a game black hole.
Get on the bike and head straight to the first stop: Juweizhai Spicy crab. It took more than ten minutes by bike to get to the restaurant. After entering the door was attracted by the aroma, can’t wait to place a meal. Amway was given a bottle of big kiln guests, the bottle looks like beer, actually it is very retro soda, not very good to drink. The overall taste of the food is relatively heavy, the taste can score 70 points, worth going.
After eating spicy crab, I plan to go to the second stop: Mianbing. The road passed through a residential area called Liaoning Li. The yard was filled with fruit trees, including jujube trees and mulberry trees. Out of the community along the road, there are a lot of residential buildings fronting the street, some residents will change their rooms into small shops, operating a variety of market trades, more characteristic is that these shops have no doors, from the window to enter. After turning another corner, we came to the ice shop. I ordered three pieces of mimimian ice, which tasted like durian, cantaloupe and vanilla. The taste was spongy, but not too delicate.
After chatting the gossip, we arrived at the third stop: A sichuan snack bar with cold noodles. We sat down at a low table outside with some horses. In a short time, the boss came out with a cooked pot with cold noodles. The crust was thin and crisp and hot, while the cold noodles inside tasted smooth and cool. With the sichuan red oil seasoning, a very wonderful chemical reaction was produced.
After eating and drinking enough, I decided to go to a nearby park for a walk. Unexpectedly, I was staring at the children’s paradise project. I confidently sat in the last position of the pirate ship, and then I spent the whole time in weightlessness and fear of heights + pain mask face. A little further on, there was a pool of water, not large but connected to the sea, where seagulls could be seen and the salt sea breeze could be smelled. There were also adults fishing and children fishing for shrimp.
Then, the time is not early, follow the companion’s recommendation to queue up to buy a box of crisp fat mung bean cake, on the way home.
4 pieces
Communicate with foreign friends our initial intention to do products.
Some hopes for 2022
Looking back at some of my thoughts on 2021, it’s basically moving in the established direction. Let’s give some hope for 2022 at the end.
Make a home in Beijing
I’ve decided to get on the train in Beijing. I hope everything goes well.
Focus on energy and health management
Life is a long run, good health can continue to play more energy, is the cornerstone of everything. I want to take my wife with me this year.
Gather energy for life’s growth
Technology is the foundation of life, systematic learning of technical knowledge, improve the ability to analyze and solve problems.
Maintain a sense of entrepreneurship at work, responsible for business results, application stability, and partners.
Do something of long-term value by participating in the open source community and filling in the Github boxes.
Increase your connection to the world
Build your resume in the Web3 world, enter the Crypto world, and keep up with The Times.
Increased connection and interaction with the outside world, continuous fragmentation + systematic output. Creative ability may become more and more important in the future, but I haven’t thought clearly about what I can export and what value I can bring to others. But I decided to do output first in the New Year, and then slowly find the direction.
Get together with family and friends more often.
Thank you for seeing here, and I hope Xi ‘an and xi ‘an partners can return to normal life as soon as possible. Come on biangbiang noodles.