“Inferiority and Transcendence.” excerpts
Conclusion:
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cooperation
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equality
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Self-interest and altruism
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Beyond themselves
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Dare to challenge and overcome difficulties
The importance of cooperation
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We must carve out our lives, it is our responsibility, and we can deal with it. We are masters of our own actions.
Affective influence development
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A lifestyle must be reinforced by emotion in order to give rise to behavior
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If a child wants to focus on overcoming his difficulties, the goal is based on his interest in reality, in others, and in cooperation
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Not only can the mind influence the choice of a particular disease, it can control the entire structure of the body
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Lifestyle and corresponding emotional tendencies constantly influence physical development
Body shape, character and mind
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The need to cooperate is constantly pressing us, and we are constantly having to look to our intuition for hints as to how to steer ourselves more safely through the chaos of life
An inferiority complex
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We always find that the deceased must blame someone for his death. The suicide seems to say, “I am the tenderest and kindest of all, and you have treated me so cruelly.”
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Tears and complaints, which we call “the power of water,” are effective weapons for undermining cooperation and reducing others to slavery
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“Why fear of misbehaving?” “The only answer is” Because they set their sights too high.”
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Life is too short, the body is too weak, but three questions in reality keep asking us to find better answers
The pursuit of superiority
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Not only do teachers differ greatly in their abilities and interests, but their goals also have a significant impact on their external performance
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Once the goal of superiority is crystallized, the individual makes no mistakes in the pattern of life
Set meaningful goals
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We need to get them to improve and make them specific goals
You can’t know adults without learning how to know children, right
58 pages
The codependence of love is shunned only by those whose object of superiority is “I must not be weak, I must not let others know who I am.” They are always aloof from love and cannot accept it. It’s their way of avoiding feelings of weakness
Understand the memory
On page 65
Only when we are genuinely interested in others can we be successful
The early memories
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When a child is shown off, he may become more interested in being admired than in giving his best
On page 75
When we get an impression, we like to use it to explain something else
Early memories have a pattern that maps into life
The school of individual mind and dreams
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The feelings created by the individual must always be consistent with his way of life
It is only when reality presses down on us and presents us with problems, even in our sleep, that we dream
Dream composition:
The purpose of dreams is to deceive ourselves and to make us feel good about ourselves
Common dreams:
On page 100
We hear so much about the ideal marriage, the great parents, and the bad kids
On page 103
If a person cannot relate to others, it is likely that he wishes to control them
The influence of mothers
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A woman who is dissatisfied with her role as a woman has goals in life that prevent her from having a close connection with her children, and those goals are not aligned with those of her children
The Oedipus complex arises only from children who wish to occupy the full attention of their mother and to avoid other people
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If we all understand that cooperation and love can never be achieved by force, we can surely avoid unnecessary tension and useless effort
The responsibility of a father
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As a father, he must prove himself to be a good partner to his wife, to his son, and to society. He must face three problems in a good way — career, friendship and love
There should be no ruler in the family and every opportunity to create a sense of inequality should be avoided
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It is important for children to know that family is a part of society when they grow up
Parenthood:
True cooperation is possible only when both partners believe that their mutual interests outweigh their personal interests
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It is almost impossible for one to feel inferior to another without feeling resentful
Talent and acquisition
On page 149
It’s not genetics that gets in the way of interest, it’s discouragement or fear of failure
Distinguish your child’s personality
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To see how cooperative a child is, look at his body posture, the way he looks and listens, the distance he keeps from other children, how easy he is to relate to others, and his ability to pay attention
Criminal mentality
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In the criminal’s various activities and attitudes, it is shown that he wants to be a good person, to solve problems, to overcome difficulties
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Every criminal — and every other human being — follows this line in pursuit of victory, in pursuit of a secure position
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They have never learned to cooperate, and they must first learn to cooperate in order to solve their professional problems, but these criminals did not do that