preface
Recently I have heard the most poignant sentence I think should be: if parents are still hard, then what’s the point of us growing up?
Yes, before we know it, we have grown up and achieved or failed in our studies; But time is also eroding the appearance and body of parents. I always think I am still small, parents are young, just in self-deception!
Today is June 1 Children’s Day, also let me recall the recent home to talk with mom and dad! Mother said: “No matter how old you are, you are always a child in my eyes. I can wash your clothes, cook for you and brush your shoes, because you are my good son!” . Tears welled up in my eyes. I owed them so much.
I would like to express my apology for the June 1 Children’s Day anniversary and my debt to my parents.
My home town
My hometown is a remote small rural area in Henan, can say the place on the bird without shit, go to the county to take a bus for an hour, I remember my old house is like this.
I am a very, very, very close to my mother. That is why my parents went to work when I was very young. I cannot accept sitting on the threshold of the house all day long and crying. Later, my grandfather sent a message to my mother from someone who went out to work, saying that the child cried for his mother all day. So my mother came back, so that for so many years she did not go out to work, all the year round at home farming.
Fortunately, although my parents do not know how to read, they have always supported me to go to school. Even if my grades are not ideal, they can only say a few words at most. They still let me go to school, because they know that without knowledge, they will stay in their hometown and farm with them, which is not what they want to see.
When I was very young to know that they make money is not easy, early learned to catch fish in the river net, under the dragon catch loach, eel sell money to save up; So at the age of 12 in junior high school can already pay their own tuition. It’s only been a few semesters, but it’s still a thousand dollars. But even so is still a drop in the bucket, after high school almost to ask for money to spend them.
Parents’ income comes from: planting rice, dad no matter under the net, to build houses for others in the wind and rain; I can understand how hard it is for them to make money. They only make ten or twenty thousand yuan a year for one season of rice, and they need to support me to go to college.
At this time they are still hard!
My university
My parents never sent me to school in junior high school, high school and college. I rode to school with my friends in the village. We look at other people to go to school are mom and dad, driving a private car, wearing bright, hair with moss, can only cast envious eyes, and this envy is not envy others how rich, how good; But ** envy they have parents to accompany to school, ** and our village these people are their own train to the school thousands of miles away from home, get off all the way by asking the way to find the school freshman pick up point; We knew that our parents did not go with us because they were afraid of embarrassing us because they could not read.
I remember that when we went to college, our three friends from the same village each held a fertilizer bag in his hand, which contained the cotton quilt newly shot by our parents, and still carried the shoulder bag from high school on his shoulder. As tickets were not available, three people squeezed into the same seat, each taking turns to sit for a distance.
At that time others are taking tianyu, ZTE, Gionee, Xiaomi, Huawei, Apple smart phones, and we are taking nokia’s key mobile phone, not to the school parents are in a hurry to call: “Yang, you to the school? Be careful not to walk around. There’s a lot of bad guys, okay? Don’t fight with others, get bullied?”
I thought to myself, “I’m 18 years old. How could someone so old get lost?” ;
During college, I would call them once a week or two to tell them how I was doing. At that time, I was really a little impatient, everything to ask, everything to tube, sometimes even angry with them, urging them to hang up the phone.
And when I look back on it all these years later, we are still the children they saw when they were children, the little babies they held in their arms.
Sleeping across the road, working on a construction site, going to an electronics factory, handing out leaflets, planting trees for others, which may be the most meaningful experience of my university; But THESE I dare to tell my parents, they will certainly love dearly:
I earned thousands of yuan from my job and bought myself a laptop.
② The money earned by the electronics factory is enough for their living expenses without finding them to live on;
③ Handing out leaflets can only solve the food cost of one day on the weekend;
④ In the same day of planting trees, he gave 60 yuan, which was enough for one or two days’ food.
I clearly remember that I installed radiators and hot and cold water pipes for the employee floors of Foxconn. Because the floor was just capped and the dust was super big, I had to carry the water pipes to the ninth floor on my back. Remember a summer vacation work experience, more regret that the photo in my broken button mobile phone, lost.
My father was a poor man of words, as I suppose most fathers are; They were harsh to you, fierce to you, and scolding you; On the other hand, they secretly give you money and buy you a bunch of food. Maybe that’s what they call a bark worse than a bite. I hated him in high school because he was mean to me and hit me. After high school, I told myself that he was a good father, but in a different way.
Different from the mother’s warm and delicate love, father seems to have always been a domineering role, not good at talking, always do more than say, so that sometimes, we will feel that father does not love us. He played this role in our lives:
① He is never good at expressing his feelings
② He or she often plays a serious, silent role
③ He is accustomed to face difficulties with silence
④ They are pioneers on our way forward
⑤ TA is the person we used to ask for but never say thank you
But for his father’s attitude change is in high school: just on high school I was the top five in class, due to puppy love and naughty grades all the way down to the bottom, but the teacher let me please the parents.
It was a stormy day, with a strong wind, and dark; I’m out of the window staring blankly political class, this time I saw a figure out of the window near corridor: that’s right, my father stood there classes, director of the communication, he got wet hair, clothes and rain, he was standing in the distance I looked at the sitting by the window, just silently watching, we didn’t say any language communication, just looked at each other. Before long, he left the school, did not look for me, but did not let the teacher call me out, but chose to leave silently.
Father left, I a person silently sitting in a daze, imperceptibly tears have come out. This time he did not scold me hit me, but told me: “your head teacher said you are very smart, but you do not study hard, I do not want to say anything, I hope you can understand the difficulties between me and your mother”. From then on, I began to devote myself to study, and successfully entered the top ten in the final. But it also became my deepest memory.
After graduation,
In 18 years, I went to the largest cross-border e-commerce platform in China to do back-end development. At this time, I also had my own income. It’s not a lot but it’s enough to cover my expenses and buy something for my parents.
Meizu mobile phone bought when I just graduated:
Xiaomi phone I bought two years after graduation:
Because they don’t want me to spend money, don’t let me buy expensive, watching the old family to buy what kind of what.
Then, because the family farm, often need to pull fertilizer, pumping machinery, so I gave them money to buy their own tricycles. Every busy time to give them some money to buy diesel oil, fertilizer, please plant seedlings and so on
As time passes and they get older, these physical tasks are not as good as they used to be; No matter how to persuade them to plant a little less land, I can stay here for a period of time, have a good rest and go out to play, always is not willing, dad said: “here is my roots, home here, big character do not know a, I will not go anywhere.” But I knew, and was afraid to follow me out:
He was afraid that I would give him money
② For fear of affecting my work
③ afraid that I would bother him
In fact, otherwise, I would like them to stay around me can enjoy the blessing, the rest of the life without all day busy, the wind and the sun. Take them out and see the world when you have time.
It’s 61 this year
In 2020, I quit my job and joined Tencent Music. My welfare package is much better than before. It makes me want to pick them up and be able to take care of them.
This year’s June 1, as always, happened to the planting season, take you to see a few photos:
This is a rice field in my backyard (not my home, our village together).
This is the rice field under the setting sun, which is planted by the villagers under the scorching sun.
This is the rice field on both sides of the main road in our village. It still looks so fresh.
Take a closer look at the newly planted seedlings and look forward to the autumn harvest.
These are their painstaking sowing, each year of planting seedlings, my father, they will be very black, very black, sometimes serious can take off a layer of skin; I saw his original meter eight more height gradually become bent. I also really began to realize that they were really old and it was time for me to support them.
There is a kind of bitterness, call parents gradually old, but we have not enough ability, let them live a better life.
If parents are still hard, then what’s the point of our growing up? Can say this sentence of people must be really grow up, can understand the hard work of parents. This is also the parents always want to see the scene, you really grow up!