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“Twenty-three is a leap,” they say, which at least shows that it is possible to grow into adulthood.
But no matter pass what method, grow tall to need certainly, sufficient morpheus, balanced diet, right amount of motion, simply say, anyway, still want to eat, drink, sleep, play well, as to whether really grow tall, can not excessive expectation, let nature take its course.
But what I really want to answer is not how to get to 180 scientifically, but how to get to 180 temperamentally, at least.
The reason why wearing is important is that wearing is not only a display of beauty, but also a modification of body defects. For example, if a very thin person wears tight pants, it will be more thin. Wearing loose pants will make the whole more thick. The same goes for height. Wearing the right outfit won’t really make you taller, but it will enhance your temperament and make a better impression.
And the specific wear of the content, contains a lot of details, in terms of physical height, you can choose a suitable hairstyle, such as the boy bangs comb high, girls tie a lovely ball head, boys can choose to heighten the pad and shoes, girls can choose a variety of high-heeled shoes.
But high in one outfit, you can select the same as color clothes, long narrow or thin H version of clothes, plus a few tricks, like highlights waist position, his trousers rolled up, and in the picture, will be one foot forward out has become a necessary skill of many girls, of course, if the reference 157 ishihara beautiful photos, You can learn more angles and techniques. I am not a professional, but I have not seen relatively systematic content, which requires us to accumulate and learn in daily life, and buy more clothes to practice.
When it comes to posture, most programmers have the bad habit of hunchback and chest. When they stand up, they are crooked and even hyperactive. If you think of a young man in his early twenties walking with his back bent, his head bowed, and his furtive eyes peering from side to side, what is temperament at all? Here is a recommended answer to a long time ago read zhihu:
“The girl said he was” eyes visual ahead, when walking pace sedate, each time you pass by her like a gust of wind, and he is also is such, highly effective, by spectrum and efficient, and increasingly felt that the boy after familiar with confidence and sedate, gradually a lot of important things in class shall be the responsibility of the boy, he also became the nucleus of their class “.”
“Later I began to pay attention to this boy, to tell you the truth, I was also impressed by his aura, I felt for the first time what is called striding meteor, the wind under my feet. There is a saying called” walk like the wind, stand like a loose, sit like a clock “, must describe such a boy.
However, in one interview, HR said to me, “Are your current college students bent over because they sit in front of the computer for a long time? I see you walk upright, which is a little different from the others I interviewed before.”
Dress may also need to hit a lot of money, but do not stoop, often remind yourself to walk straight, but heart can do things.
Of course, wear and the content of the posture is definitely more than a few, daily makeup look how to match, how to improve the skin state, the right sitting, standing, and even walking posture, how to correct the existing posture habits, expression management how to laugh the most good-looking, and so on, if you go to search the content, will find that each content are many, It also takes time to practice and explore what works best for you. But maybe that’s what makes everyone different.
After talking about the outside, let’s talk about the inside. There are many introductions about temperament, citing some introductions from Wikipedia and Baidu Encyclopedia:
Temperament describes the way an organism behaves and reacts, the way it behaves. It is deeply embedded in the individual and includes emotions, body movements, attention-related responses and self-regulation.
Temperament is one of the psychological characteristics of human personality. It refers to the stable dynamic characteristics such as strength, speed of change and balance degree when psychological activities occur in people’s cognition, emotion, speech and action. It is mainly manifested in the speed of emotional experience, strong and weak, the concealed performance and the sensitivity or slowness of the action, so it is infected with a thick color of all psychological activities.
Temperament in society, is a person from the inside to the outside of an internal charm of personality and then play a person’s internal charm of the quality of sublimation. There are a lot of personality charm referred to, such as self-cultivation, moral character, behavior, manners, the feeling of speaking and so on, the performance of elegant, noble and clean, quiet, gentle and elegant, bold and unrestrained atmosphere, informal, instant results. So, temperament is not what you say. And their long-term internal self-cultivation balance and a combination of cultural accomplishment, is the result of perseverance.
Although there are many ways to describe it, all of them express that temperament is the internal manifestation and the external expression of individual quality. Therefore, it is not so much to improve one’s temperament as to say that it is a process of remolding oneself.
We often have the illusion that we can break thousands of “volumes” (juǎn) by reading, and solve everything by reading. Then, do we have to read many books to improve our temperament?
Of course not. One’s character and personality can be changed by reading more books, but reading is only one way. As I have written before:
This depth can only be attained by thinking alone, and there are two ways to provoke you to think: traveling thousands of miles, reading thousands of books, in short, practice and reading.
A craftsman who has been dedicated to a certain technology for many years, even if he has not read many books, can still be respected for his tenacity and quiet heart honed in practice.
Therefore, the most important thing is the inner peace and cognitive change obtained through practice and reading, which will lead to the fundamental improvement of temperament.
So what are we going to do?
Needless to say, excellent books can adjust your way of thinking, change your attitude towards life, and have a deeper understanding of life and society. The temperament of a person is closely related to the level of his thought.
But this time I want to focus on practice. What are we going to do?
The first is self-worth.
What we spend most of our time doing is our primary source of self-worth. For most of us, that’s what we do. If we don’t gain a sense of value in our work, then the work is draining our enthusiasm, draining our minds, draining our inner approval of who we are, and eventually it will be like going to the grave: Reluctant to get out of bed in the sleeping, on the way to work to lament, but the company will pretend to blood, make yourself addicted to work, may be the most relaxing time on the way from work, came home and began to revenge, stay up late entertainment, cycle again the next day, on weekends, often interest do things again, and he spent in waste.
From this perspective, if the work environment is a source of chronic psychological distress and you are constantly looking for solace outside of work, then you really should leave. Otherwise, it will be a drain on your psyche. Even when you finally leave, you will spend a lot of time healing your wounds.
On the other hand, work, the thing we spend most of our time on, should give us an irreplaceable value advantage. The more irreplaceable this value is, the more we recognize our inner self, which is also the source of our confidence. Confident people, on the other hand, tend to be energetic and interested, so they get into a positive cycle.
The second is hobbies.
If you work as is full of life, it will eventually do more harm than good, do a job for a long time, even to love again, also can be exhausted, then more interest is required to provide a comfort, but interest hobby and not simply, such as the common brush watching a movie, video, game, anime, etc., these things can bring happiness, But as a common vehicle for titty music, the joy of these things was short-lived.
Aristotle says in The Ethics:
Every happiness is based on a person engaged in a certain activity, or the application of a certain ability as a premise, without this premise, happiness would be out of the question.
The happiness we experience is premised on the use and utilization of our abilities, and the greater the joy and happiness, the higher the capacity as a precondition.
So don’t just consume this content as a consumer, but think about how to use your power to create something, which will bring another inner fullness.
We often find that some of the best people have a hobby that is completely unrelated to their work, but when you think about it, it makes sense. The ability required by such interests and hobbies is often complementary to the ability required by their work. For example, mental workers have a physical hobby, while those who are good at logical thinking have a sentimental one. Moreover, hobbies and interests often complement each other and produce wonderful sparks.
The third is life experience.
There is a saying:
Now your temperament hides the roads you’ve traveled, the books you’ve read, and the people you’ve loved.
Although the scope of life experience is very wide, I would like to extend from “the road we have traveled” and “the people we have loved” to talk about two directions. One is “the road we have traveled”, which represents the scenery we have seen and the things we have experienced. People in the society, also is in the nature, we often have been natural scenery sweep off the haze of experience in the heart, love for the nature is a kind of simple emotion, of course not only refers to the natural landscape, landscape lights of the city at night, the art exhibition of peace and calm, also provide us with a touch of inner beauty.
And experienced things, not just things that happen on the trip, but things that happen in daily life. When we are in a muddled, depressed mood, we always hope that something big will happen to break the cold heart, and our life will have a huge turning point. However, in real life, such a thing does not exist, and it is often a big event that you may not be able to survive. More often, it’s a little thing, a collaboration, or an invitation, or a trip, or a party. I used for things like this are not in my plan, or can’t see what the big value and refused to such things, little imagine, also because indulge comfort zone, don’t want to contact the pain caused by, on the one hand, let the “small” run out of events, on the one hand and the craving for the so-called “big event”, the last is constantly hope and disappointment, and then doing nothing.
And then there are the loved ones, the people we touch and connect with. There is a need to connect with other people in the world, especially in human society. We have relationships with other people all the time, family, friends, lovers, colleagues, society and country. In connection with each other, we feel needed and needed, which brings meaning and happiness. Therefore, chat more with family members, get along more with friends, more contact with lovers, the heart is warm, in sincere treatment, we will get inner strength, we will also find a peace and quiet in getting along, and even a spiritual belonging.
Having said so much, it seems that we are far away from the topic of temperament, but I think that all the things that can touch our heart will eventually become nutrients, nourish our heart, and outwardly become our “temperament”.
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