It’s graduation season again. I look through my friends circle. Now all my classmates have bought a car, bought a house, got married and had children.

They are still worried about whether they will be laid off or get an interview with the company they want.

Seeing other people earn millions of dollars a year, while he is still in the muddle of life, daily aimless.

At the beginning, it was a class of students, every day after class, learn the same knowledge, but why a few years after graduation the gap is growing?

That’s what I was asked this holiday when I went to meet some of my sisters.

In fact, the gap has always existed, the school’s single evaluation system is difficult to reflect

Graduated a few years later a classmate party again, see once low-achieving students into millions, mix are flawed, at this point you may be in the mind a tight, can’t help but wonder: we clearly about in college, and he studies have not even me, and there is no outstanding performance at ordinary times, how to mix than me so good now?

Everyone is an independent individual, individual differences exist all the time, the gap between each other is also produced, even in the early birth has been opened. However, in domestic universities, everyone is arranged into one class and attends classes and eats together every day. It seems that everyone is almost the same, giving you the illusion that everyone is at the same starting line.

School and society are two very different environments, and they have different standards of excellence.

In schools, students are judged only by their academic performance, even by scholarship selection, student cadre selection, postgraduate guarantee, etc. This single evaluation model actually covers up many gaps between people.

But out of school, when you enter the society, from the role of “school person” to “social person”, the differences between classmates will gradually show.

At this time, your personal comprehensive quality is more important, and the criteria for judging are more diversified. If at this time also deliberately and others “compare” school results, will only appear ridiculous.

Results can only represent your professional learning in school, can not represent your comprehensive strength must be stronger than others.

“Background, talent and effort, direction choice, communication and social skills”, etc., are all factors that affect a person’s future development level, and also the cause of the gap between classmates.

Some students have strong family background, some are good at dealing with interpersonal relations and are born with small social skills. Some students have amazing talents in some aspects. Under the background of exam-oriented education, their advantages can not be reflected and have been ignored by us.

Once they are out of school and given proper opportunities, these hitherto overlooked strengths will come to the fore.

We are different before we go to college, and we are different after we go out, but we are all in the same school.

Some people are born with a silver spoon in their mouth, while others have to live on government handouts. In the school seems to be the same starting point of the people, in fact, their starting line has exceeded our end.

They grew up in a well-off family and had access to the best educational resources. In order to provide them with a better education, their parents spent all their financial resources and energy. After graduation, the family has already arranged for them in the future life direction: a stable job, a house and a car, the rest of life without food and clothing.

The harsh reality is that most of us are ordinary people who are struggling to put food on the table. Every day, get up early and return late, day shift and night shift, tired a day back home just want to lie flat. How do you have the resources to talk about your future when your monthly salary is just enough to cover your daily expenses?

All roads lead to Rome, but some people are born in Rome. For example, the primary school students in Beijing’s chaoyang district chose to go to the North Pole for their graduation trip.

Family background is not our choice, we will always be different from others.

“The most courageous people are not those who can put nothing else in front of them at the beginning, but those who can summon the courage to improve themselves when they see and realize the insurmountable gap in front of them.”

In the face of the current situation, the only thing we can do is to make ourselves work harder, run forward and strive for a higher starting point for the next generation.

Choice is more important than effort

If a ship has no aim, any wind is contrary. No wind is favourable to a man who has no definite aim in sailing.

The choice of future career is the first major choice in our life after graduation, and it has a great deal to do with the direction of our life in the coming decades. If we choose the right track at the beginning, it could save us countless years of struggle.

The choice of career direction not only affects our future growth path, but also determines our future development. Only by finding a path suitable for their own development can we get twice the result with half the effort.

Many fresh graduates do not have a detailed plan for their future development, do not know what they want to do on earth, and cast a wide net when looking for a job.

Also some people often participate in social practice during the university, with their rich experience to successfully enter the core position of a large company, easily tens of thousands of + monthly income, and some people frequently job-hopping, in the work without a clear goal planning, with a meager salary to muddle along, do not see the hope of the future.

They go in circles while others forge ahead with their own detailed and precise plans. As the years go by and the decades go by, the gap between peers becomes more and more obvious.

Our society is less and less tolerant of mistakes, and a young person who makes a mistake may lose the game. During my internship at the university,

You have plenty of trial and error to use to determine if the job is right for you and should be in it for the long term.

If you try again after graduation, you will have to pay much more than you did before, and you will be far behind your peers.

By looking at others, I concentrate on doing what I love and am good at, day after day, year after year, I get to know many people in the circle, meet opportunities and seize them successfully, and naturally improve my competitiveness.

A person’s time and energy is extremely limited, in this limited time to make a correct choice, to get twice the result with half the effort.

Everyone in the world has their own time zone

Some people live in a high building, some in a deep ditch, some light, some rust.

Open the circle of friends, everyone is better than their own life, their life is always so bright, today get a raise, tomorrow buy a house and a car, but they do not know how to solve the next month’s rent.

“During the day I say I don’t care, but at night I don’t want to sleep.” When we see the gap between ourselves and our friends and classmates, we can’t help comparing ourselves with our own lives, and we have a deep sense of inferiority and anxiety in our hearts.

This psychology is often caused by “peer pressure”. By constantly comparing yourself to others, you will only get worse and worse, falling into a spiral of self-doubt and self-denial.

It must be acknowledged that the differences in birth, character and opportunities between people are inevitable.

For most people, going through life in a mediocre way is the norm. It’s important to deal with these negative emotions as they can either be fuel to move forward or emotional poison.

Tsai Kang-yung once said: “The good of others will force me to detect where my strengths are. You will know with certainty that, yes, I have low self-esteem, but low self-esteem is the fuel that allows me to learn how other people achieve their goals and how I achieve mine, which is called being myself.”

Peer pressure is also inevitable, so we have to adjust our attitude, neither envy others nor self-pity, and reconcile with ourselves and follow our hearts.

The gap is only temporary, even if we lose in the starting line, we can also achieve the “corner overtaking”, a bad hand into king fry.

Everyone grows up in different circumstances, and no one can stipulate that we must have the same excellent grades.

We want to see their own advantages, at their own pace slowly, can also shine.

“New York is 3 hours ahead of California,

New York is three hours ahead of California time,

but it does not make California slow.

But time doesn’t get any slower in California.

Someone graduated at the age of 22,

Some people graduated at 22,

but waited 5 years before securing a good job!

But waited five years to get a good job!

Someone became a CEO at 25,

Someone became a CEO at 25,

and died at 50.

He died at the age of 50.

While another became a CEO at 50,

Someone became a CEO 50 years later,

and lived to 90 years.

And live to be 90.

Someone is still single,

Some people are still single,

while someone else got married.

There are also people who are married.

Obama retires at 55,

Obama retires at 55,

but Trump starts at 70.

Trump didn’t start his presidency until he was 70.

Absolutely everyone in this world works based on their Time Zone.

Everyone in the world has their own time zone.

People around you might seem to go ahead of you,

Some people seem to be ahead of you,

some might seem to be behind you.

There are people who seem to be behind you.

But everyone is running their own RACE, in their own TIME.

But everyone has their own routine in their own time zone.

Don’t envy them or mock them.

Don’t be jealous or laugh at them.

They are in their TIME ZONE, and you are in yours!

They’re all in their time zone, and so are you!

Life is about waiting for the right moment to act.

Life is all about waiting for the right moment to act.

So, RELAX.

So, relax.

You ‘re not the newest.

You’re not falling behind.

You ‘re not EARLY.

You’re not ahead.

You are very much ON TIME, and in your TIME ZONE Destiny set up for you.

Everything is on time in your own time zone that fate has arranged for you.”