Today, I made quarterly report to the leader. It started well at the beginning. Later, I mentioned that I would play mobile phone in the meeting (the leader would convene everyone to talk about what I had done that day in the off-duty time every day, ranging from 10-30 minutes to 60 minutes), we had a disagreement, which directly or indirectly caused some unhappiness.

In fact, I have already expressed my position at the beginning: I will abide by the company’s rules and regulations in the future. But because the mouth did not control a lot of dudu, there are some unhappy situation, later after calm thinking, come to understand, in this record,

Start with your phone

In fact, I have already expressed my position at the beginning: I will abide by the company’s rules and regulations in the future. But he also said he was confused: There was a part of the meeting that wasn’t relevant to him and was boring, so it was okay to pull out your phone and take care of your own business.

So my attitude is:

  • From now on, I will abide by company policy and refrain from using my phone during meetings
  • However, I insist that I don’t like to hold a station meeting every day to listen to other people’s things that have nothing to do with me (it is your leadership needs not I need), so I play the mobile phone

However, the leader thought that I was wrong, I should like to recognize this matter in my heart

Can’t I spend time with my wife after work?

Can’t I play a game after work?

You have to sit here and listen to this.

Later, the leader said the reason for his emphasis on this matter: HE hoped that I would become more mature in the workplace. It is common sense for me not to play mobile phones in meetings, and similar common sense problems should not be reminded by the leader, which will make people tired.

I feel like a chicken and a duck:

Therefore, the leadership completely did not stand in my Angle of view to consider the problem, the results naturally imaginable.

My thinking is very clear and firm: I can do what you want me to do, and I promise I won’t repeat the problem you mentioned, but want me to be consistent with your cognitive model: daydreaming!

Then he sighed: How tired!

Of course, it’s really hard to push your own ideas when you’re completely on your own.

Then I mentioned that I was the only one who played with my phone the whole time, which I thought was hysterical. I went to great lengths to prove my point. I said:

A wave of dispassionate analysis

Of course, the above explanation is a little irrational, so I would like to make an objective and calm analysis:

  • In fact, the essence of this meeting is a work report that takes up my rest time. The work report is to talk about the periodic personal gains and summarize the existing problems. Why do I want to talk about some topics that are not related to this meeting?
  • In fact, the leader just wants to say a few words to highlight his professionalism. After all, he is in his position. Why can’t I understand him?
  • The leader mentioned some of the problems he saw in order to make the team better. Although he had a lot of problems himself, it was a different thing
  • In order to get me to work more, the boss would say something else, such as promotion and salary increase. It’s an empty promise with no conditions, but why can’t I just act like a grown-up and let the conversation run smoothly?
  • The leader will also “impart” some of his own experience, although I do not like his comparison of time and space, conditions are not equal, but why can’t I be a gentleman?

So from this point of view, my career maturity is really not enough, because I hate falsehood, I speak my mind, I tell what I say, I will not hide, MY heart is on my face, I do not hide (although the career maturity of the leader is also very low, but this is not the same thing).

I remember ma and Musk talked about AI in a forum in Shanghai some time ago. Ma said AI is Alibaba Intelengence at the beginning, and then attacked Musk. Despite this, Musk maintained a very elegant and gentlemanlike attitude throughout the meeting, but it was obvious that the two were not communicating well (Musk was constantly drinking water to offset his embarrassment, and there were fundamental differences in their perceptions and values of the world).

From this perspective, the leadership of the “workplace” maturity is low (his age and experience are rich than me, don’t show the grace and understanding, feeling giving a person is not on words respect), but my “career maturity is low (no words are the challenge of the goodwill or meet some excitable impatient, will encounter some unreasonable phenomenon was very obvious).

I prefer found through myself or solve the problem, I need to improve their career maturity, as twitter see a words: what is a high emotional intelligence: is somebody else’s intelligence, experience, ability, family circumstances are, you can still to an elegant humility to push force, something he doesn’t like you and make you feel relaxed and happy.

Obviously I have not that height and realm, there is still a long way to go…

The last

In addition, I later found that I could not persuade me to reach some conscious consensus with him at the level of maturity in the workplace. The leader gave me a figure that shocked me: IN the whole development team, I did not quite meet his expectations, ranking in the bottom 50%.

Now THAT I’m relieved, maybe some of the previous arguments led him to that conclusion. Because I have been conscientious and have never made any mistakes in my work, and I get along well with all my colleagues.

I have been doing development for more than 6 years. Except for the first few years when I was a fool, I was the core development and backbone of the team. The leaders praised me and never talked about me so badly.

But I’ve moved on, and I’ve become more determined about where I want to go.