May 26 is a good day. Today, my daughter-in-law’s private equity fund was put on record successfully and she became a fund manager again. I also became an investor of this fund. Taking this opportunity, I would like to summarize my previous experience. Make an annual plan every year in the future, and review it every six months to make sure there are no mistakes in the skill tree.
A few years ago, the daughter-in-law also hair fund, when the fund manager, at that time she was still a little girl, almost the youngest fund manager in China. However, at that time, it was the trend, and now is their own publicity, the situation, ability is not the same. If there are only three words to evaluate her, I would use them: intelligence, indomitable spirit and ruthless.
High school
I got good grades on my 2005 high school, so I’m supposed to go to the best high school in the city. But mom’s idea was to go to a high school closer to home, so it would be easy for them to visit me on weekends, and it would be easy for me to go home.
As I was young, I chose a high school near my home because I thought it would make no difference where I went to school. Now look at this decision, my mother and I are too naive, things are two sides of the same body, divided into the primary contradiction and secondary contradiction, this choice is a mistake of the primary contradiction and secondary contradiction. The question is simple: what is more important for me to go to a university that will give me a better chance of getting a better job or to be able to go back home for three years. At that time, if the problem can be abstracted out, it is not difficult to make choices. So now I’ve always felt that it’s important to be able to see the heart of a problem.
But does this choice make much difference to me? It’s hard to say, because there’s no parallel universe in real life that allows me to see what it would be like to make another choice. Although I chose a school close to my home, the school is good, with a group of wonderful teachers, and provides me with a healthy and fast growing soil.
The first half of the college entrance examination, began neurasthenia, can not sleep, the results of the severe decline. Later the math teacher recommended a sleeping nature of medicine, the effect is good, the results slowly came back.
08 college entrance examination, remember very clearly, college entrance examination that night continue to take medicine, sleep well. At that time, both my parents and I were very calm, thinking that we had worked hard anyway, how would we see fate? Ha ha ha.
Say also funny, before the grade ranking 10 or so, the first grade of the college entrance examination. This first place and other schools compared to the first too much water, but can let me choose a relatively good university.
My experience during this period has taught me:
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You may not have made the best choice, but in the right way, you can still improve to a certain extent and make up for the problems caused by the choice
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Make the best choice you can. This is the moment when choice is more important than effort. Make the right choices, and the same effort will lead to greater success
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The bigger the event, the more stable it is. A lot of students better than my grades in the college entrance examination moment, can obviously see the relaxation of the heartstrings, tight for a year or two, when the door relaxed, it is a pity
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Good attitude, thanks to my parents did not give me the pressure to become a successful child, let me understand that ordinary, healthy life is also a good option, but some of the feeling of inaction.
After the college entrance examination, neurasthenia miraculously good that day, do not need to take medicine can fall asleep feeling too good.
The university of
When I was choosing college in 2008, my mom still wanted me to go to college closer to home. This time, I decided to ignore my family’s advice and chose a suitable university, which was far from home. It’s weird that when you make up your mind, people listen to you because they don’t know which option is good either.
It was easy to choose a major. At that time, I thought computer was magical and believed that computer could change the world. I wanted to change the world.
Although it is a very naive idea, but it is really my favorite industry, so I can devote enthusiasm to learning. I also have a better personality for learning computers. It’s easier for me to communicate with machines. In addition, this track is not bad, it is still a sunrise industry.
I feel that my college life was not quite right. If I could go to college again, I would live differently, but there are not so many ifs in life.
The reason I feel like I’m not doing it right is because I grew up less in college. College entrance examination students in large provinces generally have a special trait, pay special attention to grades, this trait seems to be imprinted in their bones. So throughout college, just like in high school, study hard. My dormitory is also quite special. In the later period, I won the top several places in the grade, and all the places for postgraduate study were extrapolated from this dormitory.
There’s nothing wrong with studying hard in college, but it’s not just about studying hard at this stage. Because growing up has changed, but my mind hasn’t.
The college stage is the stage with the least pressure of growth and the lowest cost of trial and error, and it is also the stage to reshape their three views and characteristics. At this stage, we need more contact, more feelings and more attempts to see the colorful life, how others live, how human nature is, how to behave and where life is difficult.
The university should have a double major in the arts and martial arts. The liberal arts means that in addition to the prescribed courses, students can also study philosophy, literature, psychology, military affairs, history, politics and art. Wu means applying what you have learned to practice, to get in touch with society, and to sum up your experience and lessons. Civil and military double repair is mainly to open wisdom, many excellent enterprises are from the university, such as yellow car, Ele. me.
In my college life, I spent all my time on specialized courses, so I didn’t get much growth. I felt that I wasted 4 years and such a precious stage had passed.
Unfortunately, it is a pity that some, but think carefully, even if someone gave guidance at that time, I may not be able to understand, even if understand, may not be able to adhere to do. Now I think I should have changed my way of life when I was in college, because I have more experience than before, and I know which things are important and when to do them is more appropriate.
My advice to you in college: learn both arts and martial arts, dare to think and do, be wise, and be a good person
Of course, one of the benefits of studying hard is to get good grades and succeed in the postgraduate entrance exam.
meet
Enter 2012, that year is the time of my undergraduate graduation, and also the day of my successful postgraduate entrance examination. Most of my classmates applied for universities in the north, but I myself stayed in the north for too long and never went to the south. In addition, I majored in science and engineering, so I am fascinated by comprehensive universities, and Wuhan University is exactly in line with my idea. Comprehensive university, ranking is very good, the campus is very beautiful, the south, surrounding universities, snacks, play more, more sister.
When I just arrived at the university, I studied my grades and found that the girl in front of me was two points higher than me in the postgraduate entrance exam. I silently vowed to surpass her. This girl is still in my class, and we have one less student number. Remember the first time we met was a class dinner, the impression of this sister silly silly meng meng, later organized activities together, slowly together. This girl is now my wife; She had another role in the organization, that of my party introduction.
I remember trying to show my talent when I was trying to catch up with her. There was a class called statistics, and she was often absent from the class because of her internship. Before the exam, the teacher provided some papers. I calculated each question and wrote down the process of solving the question. Another student gave it to her. Later asked if she was touched, she said: at that time, there was heart sutra written on the paper, I feel that I should be a fool. Well, sure enough, people have different concerns.
The past three years have been a period of run-through. Although we didn’t have much quarrel, there were still some unpleasant moments. Fortunately, the two sides were able to solve their differences through communication.
During the three years of postgraduate study, I feel that the most valuable thing is to find someone I like. I am introverted and dull. Since childhood, I have never known why music sounds good, and I can’t hear the emotion contained in music at all. However, with communication, I can gradually hear it out. Before slovenly, finally someone can take care of me, after years of daughter-in-law training, to choose clothes for daughter-in-law is finally no longer disliked.
Sometimes fate is fantastic. Two northerners choose to study thousands of miles away from each other, choose the same major, have similar grades, are assigned to the same class, and finally get together.
The second valuable thing is to learn how to write a paper. In fact, this way of thinking can be used to do research and solve problems. The idea of writing a paper is much more important than the paper published, but AT that time I did not realize that I had learned an important ability, perhaps because I had been uninterested in academic research.
Want to say these three years sentiment
Academically: first of all, we need to figure out whether we want to engage in scientific research or work in the future. If we want to engage in scientific research, we need to find someone who is more academic as a tutor and keep accumulating papers. If you want to work, you can find a mentor who is partial to engineering, who can combine what you have learned with what you want to do. It would be better if you can get an internship in a big factory. Not thinking clearly about this matter, or looking for a mentor direction is not quite consistent with their own planning, will lead to their own pain. Secondly, suggestions in the university stage are still appropriate in the graduate stage.
In the relationship: graduate students can fall in love, both are adults, after graduation the path of the two is more certain, the probability of the final together is much higher than the university. And if it is a computer major, there are more men and fewer women. After real work, the social circle is small, the working hours are long, and the probability of meeting the right person will be lower. It is impossible to fall in love without quarrels, because two independent individuals have grown up in different environments for more than 20 years and have their own three views, so they do not agree on many things. When there is disagreement, we should think about whether it is a matter of principle and put ourselves in the other’s shoes with an inclusive attitude. In this process, the three views of two people will gradually be consistent, even if there is no conflict, the later will be very comfortable.
work
After graduation in 2015, we came to Beijing together. I made a plan when I was in school. I continued to work in the IT industry, and she chose quantification. The advantage of this is that one person can make steady profits and one person can get greater opportunities. There is no best plan, as long as two people agree, that is the best plan.
I worked for my first company for five and a half years, rising from being a beginner to a leader. I had a great time working in my first company, and a lot of reflection and growth were related to this career experience. When you stay in one place for a long time, you always want to go out, especially for someone like me who has only worked for one company. So in 21 years, I changed company and started from scratch.
We got married while we were working. Since he is a knot, the wedding preparation is really a word, can only thank the grace of the daughter-in-law not to kill. I belong to do not understand life, do not know how to dress up, a house can house for a long time, how lazy how to come, in the daughter-in-law’s careful guidance and washing board education, the overall better some.
Our living conditions are gradually getting better. From renting a second bedroom to a master bedroom, to one bedroom, to two bedrooms, to buying a house and a car, my wife is also responsible for the planning of our family, and I am mainly responsible for executing it.
Make money pay attention to open source throttling, earn money put together, I tube storage, she tube care, fully maintain my position as the Lord of the family. We have a low material desire. She mainly studies and takes exams, while I just lie down and have no habit of excessive consumption. Except for some small happiness, most of our expenses are normal and kept within a reasonable level.
The daughter-in-law’s consumption habit is quite good. If she wants to buy something useful, she tries to buy something good. This way, it seems expensive, but it actually saves money. For temporary things, how cheap how to come, I think that when I married the shoes I wear directly from the pearl, according to 30% discount discount, almost made the boss doubt life.
Their weight speaks volumes about their shared love of eating, which they try to eat out once a week. I’m going to lose weight now that I’ve gained a little weight. I’m serious.
There was a story about Wonf, and now that I think about it, it makes sense, but Wonf has nothing to do with destiny. Husband and wife concentric, together to manage their own small home, together to give advice, family stability, happy life, not only prosperous husband, but also the whole family.
It was during my work that I came to realize the importance of wisdom. I understand that to be intelligent means to have independent thinking, to have one’s own point of view, to see the essence of things, to be able to think deeply. It is very difficult to open your mind. On the one hand, you need to contact with the society, on the other hand, you need to learn relevant knowledge from books, and then continue to see, think and summarize. Slowly, you can see or foresee a lot of things. I began to learn relatively late, belong to the book read more, less social contact, do not think deeply and do not summarize, so for a long time did not break through.
conclusion
What was intended to be a brief essay turned out to be more than 4,000 words, a brief review of the last 15 years.
Life is hard, but there are still so many good things in life to pursue. We can’t decide the future, but we can control the present.
Looking back over the past 15 years, I am actually very grateful to my country for providing me with good soil and giving me the opportunity to receive education, see a broader world and pursue a better life. There is a world of difference between my childhood and my present life. China is becoming stronger step by step and is constantly giving back to its people. I am happy to see that Chinese people are becoming more and more confident recently.
These 15 years of experience have taught me that I need to be a good person, a hard worker, and a wise person, and keep practicing.
In addition, after becoming a VIP, the whole status in the home has risen, before the painting style is like this
Now that’s the case
So many years, the first time I heard daughter-in-law with “you”.
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