Recently it is the peak of job hunting, and the problem of nervousness in the interview is very annoying, veteran brother was also trapped by it, if not handled well, it is easy to miss a good job opportunity, today we will talk about this topic.

Common stress problems

Here are some of the questions that people often respond to:

  • During the interview in the afternoon, I started to feel nervous in the morning. After the interview, my stomach ached for a long time.
  • I had an interview a few days ago. I answered most of the questions, but I was very nervous and spoke very fast.
  • I had a video interview yesterday, and the interviewer asked me to talk about my project experience. I was so nervous that I forgot what I had done.
  • At first, the conversation was ok, but then I was confused by the interviewer’s questions, and I felt that I was a little incoherent.
  • Nervous! I couldn’t sleep all night thinking about questions, but what was more stressful was that there was no interview, and the waiting process was terrible.
  • I was nervous before the interview, but not during it. If the interviewer is a big shot, the heart is a little empty; If the other person is average, just play it off.
  • The interviewer is very important. I had A good chat with the interviewer of Company A, and we discussed all kinds of problems with each other, just like discussing problems with colleagues. But later, when I met T Company, I asked and answered all the questions in the whole process, and when I failed to answer, I began to sweat nervously.

Cause analysis of tension

Here’s what’s behind the tension:

  • Ability level is not enough, relative to the requirements of the target post, their ability is still lack, or resume moisture, afraid of being asked by the interviewer.
  • Lack of combing and summarizing, my ability has met the requirements, but I haven’t combed and summarized in ordinary times, and haven’t formed a structured knowledge system. The scattered and chaotic knowledge and experience can’t meet the interviewers’ rushing from one side to the other, and can’t achieve mastery and adaptability.
  • Lack of preparation in advance, lack of understanding of the company’s background and job characteristics, lack of awareness of potential difficulties and challenges in work, and lack of targeted preparation in advance lead to poor on-the-spot performance.
  • The employment situation is not good. In the labor market, the supply of talents in your field is greater than the demand. Based on factors such as ability, age and salary, you are not cost-effective and your competitive advantage is not obvious. In the absence of interview opportunities, you will value each opportunity more.
  • Inferiority complex, regardless of ability level or not competent, you have a low opinion of yourself, the lower the inferiority complex, the more you value others’ opinion of yourself, especially afraid of receiving negative evaluation from others.

In either case, the root cause of stress is that you are not in control or in a position of dominance. Your inner desire is to get a better salary or advancement, but the decision is in the hands of others.

My parents were very strict with me since I was a child, which made me feel inferior and eager to be recognized by others. Therefore, elder brother, a veteran, likes public speaking, but he is nervous every time he goes on stage, sometimes his tongue is not straight.

Later, I was fortunate enough to read Adler’s book Inferiority and Transcendence, a book about individual psychology, and I began to understand myself. Inferiority gave me the urge to prove myself through public speaking, but it also trapped me and made me unable to break through. If you act with the mindset of gaining approval from others, you will be nervous, because what you want is in their hands, not yours.

Practical Decompression tips

Once you know why, you’ll know how to put yourself in a positive position. The most important thing is to improve yourself, do more sorting and summary at ordinary times, and adhere to external output and sharing. Of course, ability improvement is a gradual process and cannot be achieved overnight. However, you can find a better match, and the better the match, the more valuable it will be.

  • Do your homework and rehearse the questions you may be asked on paper based on the characteristics of the job. Jot down key points and rehearse them several times. In addition, you can prepare common questions in advance, such as: What challenges did you encounter on the project? How did you solve it? What are your highlights? The underlying principles of XX? Design idea of YY? You can answer all of these questions well, but it’s easy to get stuck or miss answers when you’re unprepared, which can throw you off balance.
  • Systematic desensitization therapy, to make yourself less sensitive, the best way is to interview more. Hang a few more times, not nervous, slowly like play. For specific operations, you can practice on websites that provide AI simulation interviews, or you can first practice in a few companies that you don’t want to work for, and then vote for a company that you feel good about. Don’t worry, companies sometimes interview for reasons other than hiring, and you might even meet someone more suitable.
  • It’s very bold to quit your job naked. If you can’t find a job for a long time, you’ll be under financial or emotional stress, and you won’t be able to cope with it. Now there is a job or Offer in hand will not be nervous, food in hand, the heart will not panic.
  • Mentally frame the interview as a situation you have successfully dealt with, such as your graduation defense, job discussion, etc. Lower your expectations, get more concerned and more nervous, and tell yourself that you’re not going to the company and that you’re going on a day trip. You can even reassure yourself that the other person is a scum begging you to join them. Confidence, aura will also have, improvisation will be different, but remember not to overinflate. In addition, try to slow down the interview speed, adjust the body movement can in turn adjust the psychological, and so on with the interviewer chat for a few more minutes will not be nervous.

How to surmount ego to become confident from inferiority?

Veteran, elder brother just to break through the public speaking experience sharing a small tip: truly accept their status in the deep heart’s core, don’t have unrealistic expectations of yourself, don’t complain against you and don’t hold to get others point of view, but converted to try to help each other to solve problems, create value point of view, so the initiative in own hand. In fact, your boss will hire you because you can help him solve problems and make more money.

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