Writing this article today is also a feeling and hair, have to sigh with emotion, but also a period of self-recognition progress

Today’s feeling comes from the following paragraph I saw in the headlines:

Harvard study: 9 Reasons you’re poor

  • 1. 13% Hesitate
  • 2. Procrastinate 9 percent
  • 3, 8% Three minutes passion
  • A 7% Araid of rejection
  • 5. Limit yourself
  • 5 percent escape from reality
  • 22 percent Always find excuses
  • 8. 19% Fearness
  • 9, Refuse to learn 11%

Read at that time I felt summed up too in place, I have always wanted to say are very systematic and comprehensive said out, very in place ah! 2, 5, 6, 8 are my biggest SINS. I have a few others, but not as bad. Everyone is to do software development, should know procrastination, unable to get out of the comfort zone, difficult to express anxiety What these means, this basically sentenced to death, our future career in this industry has always been is well known for its fast changes, can quickly adapt to the can only be relentless kick out, the above this is the death penalty, basically didn’t saved, If the rescue is not successful quickly, even if the final OK, the wasted time will make us greatly lose competitiveness, basically means that there is no room for future growth

I don’t want to argue that it’s not true, because THAT’s who I am, and I know what the consequences are, what’s missing, and what I’m trying to say is: We have found that even though we know also don’t want to change, why, for the simple reason that these have become accustomed to, don’t change come over, want to completely change yourself it will be the day after tomorrow, the day two days is simple, a year two years you can insist, longer time, you will be exposed the nature, and because the previous repression, These sudden changes will become pressure accumulated in the heart, when the time to hold on to burst out, the result is devastating. Cite a simple example: some people when high school that is to play life assiduous, but a university that is to eat and drink skittish, waste fly life accomplishes nothing, with respect to its reason is what, nature stop, you are what kind be what kind, holding oneself more trouble

Original sin has long taken root

Studies have shown that by the age of 12 or so, after primary school, people have developed mature social views, values, and identities. From the decision you a person after the limit of achievement, you are lazy, you are afraid of things, you do not love learning, you are the brain lack of tendon, you are abnormal, you are reckless, you are stupid…

I compare the character-forming phase to writing your own unique operating system on god-given hardware. Once you’re done, you can’t change it, and you’ll see how it works. Even if you will make great efforts, great energy to change, often only touch one aspect of success, adults can not change, unless the experience between life and death can mostly reset your operating system, but modern people have this experience between life and death, life is not a movie

I regret that WHEN I was in primary school, I was weak, naive and self-righteous, and did not know to open my eyes to observe the world. I did not know that what my parents said at the bottom level was always at the bottom level. I did not know to experience, to understand and to experience. Let me now have a huge character defect, after graduation I really paid a huge price for this

The last

The text is I write casually, feel and send just, sentence impassability, thinking chaos, we forgive. Finally, I would like to say that when my child is 3 years old, I will spend most of my time to cultivate his character of perseverance, calm and outgoing, teach him to observe the world by himself and tell him why… As a parent, I hope I can put their own life experience can let children as much as possible block, as much as possible to understand, the sooner mature the earlier the benefit

Life in just 35 years, actually society step by step to help early oh I planned out, you should do what age, what should be learned, should with what kind of effect are actually tell us, or in the future will be hard to walk, walk to the child later step by step smoothly, otherwise a step slow step by step slowly and walked in chasing the others walk, killing himself achievement is not big, And unhappy and tired to death

I hope that we can at any moment thank their previous self, rather than regret ~