During the Dragon Boat Festival holiday, Lao A’s classmates’ group exploded. It turned out to be A female student who complained, “As A programmer, it is so difficult to balance work and family.” After graduation, this female student married a programmer, and her husband often worked overtime. This state lasted for many years. In the past, she had been patient and understanding, and took care of her children by herself. Originally said the Dragon Boat Festival, the family went out to play, but her husband said the Dragon Boat Festival to work overtime, so she could not suppress the idea of the heart, and his husband quarreled, complaining in the group. Everyone told his old classmate to lighten up. Old A in the group back: more understanding of your husband, programmer career is limited, after 35 years old, it is not good to find A job, while he is young, the trend of making money is upward. Then that female classmate say: bad look for a job can change line, difficult way must do programmer just have meal to eat yao? In the past, I have been understanding and considerate of wow, also know he work hard, there is little that home to ask him, but his condition is more and more busy, children from birth, he rarely company, 996 even if at ordinary times, the Dragon Boat Festival is always a break, children for he don’t have any feelings, so, make more money, what’s the use?
Old A can’t help thinking of himself, 31 years old. Is also a senior programmer, living in Shenzhen Bantian, every day in nanshan science and technology Park to work, every morning early to take the subway or bus to the company, before 9 o ‘clock to the company punch, late to deduct wages. Busy daytime tasks, this year the company as a whole affected by the market, can only be frugal. ** colleagues who did not work overtime before now often work overtime every day, for fear of being kicked by the boss, ** old A entered this company has been working overtime, stay for nearly 2 years, the company boss had A new idea, opened A new project, these two years to all kinds of toss and turn. Old and often went to A so-called “strategic project”, not for just A few months do not get up, and then change direction, often in the evening often 11-12 points to go off work, take A taxi home is already late at night, sometimes old A taxi car, in the north ring road, looking at the past brightly lit offices, and neon lights, the city looks beautiful, farmers are A group of helpless pain yards in battle. I missed out on the happiest years of my child’s life from birth to age 5. I want to earn more money, to give children a better starting line. “A” slowly turned this feeling into A feeling of guilt and debt. The female students in the class complain is not unreasonable, always want to let the family understand and considerate of their own, how to understand and considerate of their feelings. There are several times, the old A daughter-in-law said, holidays to play which relax, the old A is always too tired to rest reason blocked his daughter-in-law’s enthusiasm. Later slowly, the old A daughter-in-law also give up, do not hold what expectation to him, the relationship between the two people is often bumpy. When old A quarreled with his daughter-in-law, he always hoped that his daughter-in-law would understand the nature of his work. Daughter-in-law full of grievances, but no one to understand her own.
The last time old A went to his classmate B for dinner, B was A teacher in the system. Although he did not earn as much as old A, he often watched him show his children on wechat moments and often went out with his family in winter and summer holidays. To some extent, old A is still envious. But considering the nature of different jobs, Old A must spend his golden 10 years in capital accumulation and technology accumulation. He knows what the space of choice is for programmers past the age of 35. This kind of inner contradiction makes him sometimes can only carry alone, between family company and his own work overtime, he also changed several jobs before, found that almost all companies are not too bad. It’s rare not to work overtime. In bad times, old A was scolded and reprimanded by leaders at work during the day, and complained by his daughter-in-law when he went home at night, which once brought him to the brink of collapse. Sometimes he can not sleep in the quiet of night, often go to the balcony to smoke, cigarette lighter lit the moment, take a deep breath, and then spit out the smoke ring of the moment, as if the heart just slightly calm down, this numbness himself has not once or twice. Watching a sleeping child, not getting a good look at his child from birth to age 5. Every day the child did not get up, he went out, came back, the child has gone to sleep. Let call dad, A pair of old A strange appearance, A long time to suppress. Old A heart is not the taste. Although old A spent money to buy A lot of things for children, but still not very intimate relationship, just like A strange man. Some time ago, old A saw A programmer in Hangzhou late at night to his girlfriend to send keys, the police caught the reverse, collapse and cry, the boss is urging me to go back to work overtime! My girlfriend is rushing me! The moment cut deep into his heart.
Old A didn’t think about his career planning, go to Dachang brush the background, and then go to do training teacher, but with the training market threshold in the past two years is also constantly improving, training institutions used to take XX teacher ali P7 publicity, now see A lot of advertising, are P8,P9, P7 are not enough. Old A sometimes very confused, see other people mix so bovine force, he is still ordinary, accompany children and little time, leave not much time for himself.
Old number A couple of days ago to see the public article “I have three years of development experience, from byte beats shake panels after leaving office, A relief to get 15 companies Offer, pay straight up again ~”, think too much, young people now he felt in the unit for two years now, very busy every day, but growth is very few, are also determined to start the topic, I plan to visit a big factory or a foreign company. It’s time to make changes while you still can, not only for yourself, but for your family and your children. Old A said to prepare for review for 4 months, time is squeezed out, busy should not become an excuse to hinder progress. He told his wife what he wanted, and she was very supportive of him. This is more motivation, old A heart looking forward to the next job: must find A work and family balance.
