Hello, I’m Kalyter.

This article discusses three topics: “996 and sunshine loss”, “the relationship between people” and “the differences between the post-60s and post-90s”. I want to share my personal views and thoughts with you.

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996 and Sunshine loss

Since my parents’ generation, economic life has changed drastically. For most people, people from different family backgrounds may have different views and choices. For us ordinary people, the choice of work, thinking about going out to work will probably focus on the following points:

1. Big city or small city

There is no perfect choice, more likely to be combined with the current or future of their own personal situation to make a choice, suitable for their own is the best. The most sad is their ability, where they stand, and what they want, want to go to places far apart, but also so persistent. The most sad is their ability and want to seriously do not match, but also obsessive.

Thinking, of course, the following discussion is more against struggling in big cities, and of whether to stay in big cities or small work have confused people write, if you family well, no stress that these will not be your confusion, other readers can read below, try to stand our side and we together to think about.

Big cities mean lots of jobs, good infrastructure, abundant resources, high wages and high quality of the community. It also means that in the middle and bottom of the city, the prosperity of the city actually does not belong to you, overtime, high pressure, to see the boss and superiors face, carefully deal with the relationship with colleagues, a week of tired life down you have tortured the weekend just for their own recovery, do the next week’s psychological construction.

The “people” part of struggling in the big city (traits, emotions, interests, energy, etc.) is less, and the part of the machinery that never stops is more. One of the things I’ve seen and learned over the years is that it’s not meaningless to compare yourself to others, it’s meaningful to compare yourself to others, and that’s what makes me comfortable and happy. It is companies, schools and countries that want to see people compete with each other, and strive for the best. For companies, I can motivate two people, or even a team, to compete for the price of one, and get the most bang for the least cost. For schools and countries, in such a general environment today, if not, they will be eliminated, and bad money will drive out good money (the significance of their competition may need to be explained in a more professional perspective, which will not be discussed too much here).

2. 996 big companies and 955 small companies

Companies, capital essentially for-profit, is merciless, whether large companies or small companies don’t hope that the company and platforms, especially big companies also so, when you are young then energy use bleed you dry, then more than your own bonus, use a variety of ways even nausea you take the initiative to leave.

My personal view is that whether large companies or small companies, don’t be they kidnapped, especially the values, if your values and your personal to assess the value of high and low quality need to be company, that is the worst case, you may have deep PUA and don’t even know it, is a very dangerous situation, no matter how the value of a person no matter who can’t easy to define. It is like a kind of sunshine loss that is passed on in the strange Journey of mind

There is no need to be kidnapped by the so-called highlight moment and ignore life itself. To feel life and to experience life well is the biggest meaning of one’s afterlife.

Therefore, big companies like to brag about their platforms, big brother status and salary. They tell you to move forward according to their job model and follow the direction they want you to develop. They tell you that the highlight moment is the promotion, salary increase, financial freedom and so on. Do not be fooled too much by them. After all, do not easily give up the initiative of your own values. Do not be kidnapped and controlled by them. To get it all you have to pay enough to meet their definition of what you’re good enough or not, so it’s a two-way deal, you get what you want, and when you decide you don’t want to continue the deal, you end it.

From the point of view of transaction, there is no big difference between big and small companies in essence. There is no need to be too tangled, and it is necessary to choose according to the current or future situation.

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The core themes are as follows:

1. Working hours: 6 days a week, 9am, 11am and 2am.
2. The boss tells himself to work hard and make you think it’s chocolate that smells like shit, but after working so long it turns out it’s shit.
3. On weekends, when you don’t want to move, your body can’t produce dopamine, and you can’t resist the dopamine that comes from playing with your phone. (here, let me think of the gambling implied recorded three fall day record in leading company was put into the underground prison, work hard, pay wages at the same time, the warden would push to sell things, someone will be happy to spend money quickly get dopamine, thus wages were collected empty, so in an infinite loop, can never escape from the prison prison)
4. I don’t want to play sports, socialize, lose interest and energy
5. 996 is not equal to hard struggle, can not let the capital with hard struggle to kidnap young people. I’m not buying my boss a fancy car or bleeding myself dry.
6. At the same time, we learn to realize that we are ordinary people, but this is not in contradiction with our efforts to be better, can not let them draw us cake, make you feel extraordinary to kidnap you.

3. Part-time work, institutional work and entrepreneurship

For migrant workers, no matter what industry or position they are in, as Liu Cixin said in 2018 by analogy:

Programmers, network engineers, database administrators and the like make up the bulk of the IT republic, a 21st-century iteration of the 19th century’s industrial army, but with more work done by the brain than by the body. In a sea of code and a maze of network hardware and software, they carry their burdens like dock porters of 200 years ago and work through the night like prostitutes. Part in the development of information technology in a day, in addition to climb to the management of the lucky ones, others the knowledge and skills quickly out of date, new IT graduates like hungry termites flock to, old people (actually not old, mostly in their early 30 s) be pushed aside and be replaced and abandoned, but newcomers have no proud, IT is also most of them is not a distant prospect… This class is called the technological proletariat.

As the proletariat, there are workers who can be replaced and eliminated, but who provide the labor (the knowledge about capital, the proletariat and the bourgeoisie will be replenished after future study), and who are different from the property-bourgeoisie who occupy the means of production.

I think working in the system is for us to give ourselves an ordinary and normal job, a good life from 9 to 5, and at the same time can satisfy our “human needs” : social contact, hobbies, healthy living habits and so on. If you like to make money, you can develop a side business. You can develop interests and hobbies. Now it seems that this is a good choice. In the early years, Liu cixin was also a computer engineer working in niangziguan Power Plant in Shanxi Province. He lived a nine-to-five life, and even finished most of the Three-Body Problem at work in his spare time. Now he gradually began to understand that it was a good choice.

To put it simply, if it is possible to become a propertied class, to become the management of a company, or to own a company as a boss, otherwise the rights and interests of the proletariat workers can hardly be guaranteed in this era of crazy introversion.

Sometimes the choice is greater than the efforts, the choice is also very important, but when you need to work on the precipitation, still need to study hard, think, precipitation and the factory director, such growth later can choose to do better, or only when I put in front of learning growth began after the completion of choice may be a good opportunity, But you don’t have to be perfect to have everything ready. You can start thinking and trying when you feel you can try.

4. The independent

Personally, I think people want to live independently in the society, need to achieve financial independence, living independently, values independent (above mentioned) and emotion, that is to say, people can do in terms of emotional not abducted by one person to control, didn’t he can’t, or won’t be able to think, understand accept leave or end a relationship, And can also start a relationship independently, understand the full life cycle of a relationship.

Second, the relationship between people

Said that the changes of the relationship between people, from small to preschool when kindergarten, primary school, middle school, high school, college and work, for I meet more and more, the world is more and more complex, want me to say what I enjoy most is junior high school of time, because people at that time simple, everybody is not complicated, who like who also consumedly square square, aboveboard, I don’t have enough natural charade.

After high school, due to the progress of the college entrance examination, on the one hand, we are under great pressure. On the other hand, we begin to enter adolescence and have wild thoughts. We are diverse, and the relationship between us becomes complicated. At the threshold of entering the university, excellent people from all over the world gathered in a dormitory, a dormitory, a class and a hospital. The number of people became more and more complicated, and the relationship began to become more and more complicated.

When people start working, their relationships become complicated by a layer of interests and competition. After entering society, society is a large vats was good, all kinds of classes, all kinds of identity, various stages of all kinds of people are likely to come into contact with, and complicated, so to understand the society, human society, know is not easy, not to mention how to better solve the problem, the much more complicated than writing code.

But then again, even if the world, the society is so complicated, people’s energy is limited, do what they can do is very good, I’ve always believed in the “I have been trying to pursuit of living a simple life”, as far as possible, as much as possible within the scope of the I contact to change numerous for brief, although as long as someone is, As long as there are so many of them, it’s impossible not to be complicated and simple, but what does it matter? It’s good enough to do what you can do well. If something is beyond your scope and you can’t reach it after trying your best, don’t do it.

If I can choose to human society and individualism society now, I would choose the former, because I hope my life around a group of lovely people, mutual support, mutual help people with temperature, the feelings of moist, rich than in one’s life is monotonous, approximate exploitation machine work is much more important.

Or maybe it’s a “siege” mentality, but what does it matter? I experienced this kind of “fence” of life, I know this is probably what outside, not like, I like is enough, if not I like the appearance of inside, I might compromise, as far as possible take I like part of the portfolio, both to do it, do your best, as far as possible is enough, isn’t it? At least knowing that you don’t want this life is enough and worth it.

Individual dare to love dare to hate and social relationship complex interpersonal relationship processing

Personally, I think the two is not contradictory, but in such a complex social environment, the superposition between person and person so many roles, relationships, and so on, as long as can do it, it is good to deal with one thing one thing, if is the company’s internal conflict of interest is in accordance with the interest relations to deal with, if be pure relationship problems, Just try to deal with your relationship as best as you can, that is, by taking things apart as much as you can.

The differences between the post-60s and post-90s

The following is a simple arrangement made by the author according to his own experience, understanding and thinking over the years. It may be biased or not comprehensive, and correction is welcome.

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After 60

After 90

Time background

• Life is simple

• Most of our material living conditions are poverty alleviation

• Most people try their best to survive

• There are usually three or four brothers and sisters

• Work hard, no miscellaneous, strange ideas

• Material life has basically improved from the struggle of the previous generation, and we will no longer worry about food from poverty to “near prosperity”

• Pursue individuality, pursue yourself

• Usually an older brother or sister, or an only child

• Pay attention to thinking, have their own ideas

Education Level

• The vast majority have primary, middle and high school degrees

• Families cannot afford to send all children to school, only the eldest or second child

• Most of them are vocational or university graduates

• Nine-year compulsory education

• 18 years old college entrance examination, college entrance examination changes fate

The collective

• Pay more attention to the collective, have the collective concept

• Collective, neighborhood relationship is good, know each other, help each other lift a finger

• Out of the problem of collective help, think about things before doing things to consider the collective

• I don’t think too much about myself, myself

• Do not pay attention to the collective, think oneself individual is more important than the collective

• Not familiar with the neighbors, after work to the opposite project team colleagues

• I don’t know my roommate

• Self is the most important. I don’t care about anything else

Most people have values

• Whether to honor the family, than relatives in the family who better, who better

• Whether to enter the state institutions, competent for a post, this is also in line with the collective thought

• Became the chairman of the board, married Bai Fumei, and stepped into the peak of life (although it is a joking remark, it can reflect the values of the post-90s to a certain extent)

• Make a lot of money, build a career

• To have ambition

The mainstream line of life

• Find a good family, or save money to marry a good wife

• Live your life without breaking the law

• No matter how bitter and tired are to provide their children reading to bring out

• If you can take care of your grandchildren, you have done well

• Nine-year compulsory education

• Some began to choose to study in vocational high schools, and some even began to directly choose to do business in the district, rather than further study;

• Some take the gaokao, go to university, master’s or even PhD, or start working at some stage

Key historical changes and moments

• 78 years of college entrance examination reform, but take the bus few people, can take the bus should be very likely to count knowledge to change the fate

• The reform and opening up has attracted a large number of young people to work as blue-collar workers in the economically developed coastal areas such as Fujian, Shenzhen and Guangzhou. If they have been doing well there, they will have a good life until now

• Family planning

• Nine-year compulsory education

• Internet information age

• globalization

Value ranking

Home > individual (oneself) > collective

Individual > Collective > family,

Or individual > family > group

Emotion, family

• Matchmaking or arranged marriages between parents or matchmakers

• Many people get married first and then fall in love, divorce less, the feelings seem more stable, there may be this generation of people pay attention to the collective idea in it

• There may be many children in a family, at least 2, which may be adjusted after the birth control policy came out

• Advocating free love, young people’s ideas are more and more open

• Blind date, get married

• More identify with marriage for love, advocate marriage for love

• Perhaps because of freedom of choice, openness of mind divorce is more common than ever before

• Due to the pressure of work and the huge cost of living and raising a child, people’s willingness to give birth has reached an all-time low, and some even advocate “Dink family”.

Views on Chinese New Year

• Usually the family is poor, the whole year may not eat big fish and meat, only to the New Year can eat so much meat, is a reunion can satisfy the stomach

• The brothers and sisters that the other place goes out to work at ordinary times can have the opportunity that a league member meets

• Children, adults and the elderly family reunion, festive lively, very happy reunion day

• Go relatives, usually some distant relatives, through the New Year to move up

• Due to the general improvement of living standards, fish can be eaten in daily life, not necessarily until the Chinese New Year to eat, less expectations

• Moreover, in this era, information exchange is particularly developed, and it is not necessary to get together during the Spring Festival to communicate, which reduces the expectation of the Spring Festival

• Finally, because the new generation of young people value themselves more in values, they do not particularly care about the collective and the big family. Those who do not want to meet will not want to meet in their whole life. Under the above three circumstances, they feel that the flavor of the New Year has become “weak”.

• In fact, it is not that the flavor of the Spring Festival has become “weak”, the customs of the Spring Festival have not changed, it is different from the previous generation of this generation has changed.

Conclusion and outlook

This is I write fast and organization of an article, three hours spent an afternoon, this is just like the agile software development, rapid iteration, fast online, after completion of the acceptance no problem to put online, see the effect, if there is a problem the next improvement, adjust the changes again, next time learn, grow, and do better. Don’t try to be perfect, or I may never finish an article. If there is a deadline, I can guarantee that I can send this article to “online running” while maintaining the quality and quantity. I will try my best to complete and publish it on the same day without delay, so as to keep efficient and productive.

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